I try my very hardest not to judge anyone... I know that I have not walked in that persons shoes, and I don't know the reason that they have made the choices that they have. I really do try. It is so very hard sometimes though...
My boss is an amazing man, he has a wonderful, giving personality. He is very hardheaded and hot tempered, and very controlling, but everyone has their quirks, right? I am his office. I do everything that has to do with his business. I live in NIcaragua, he lives here too, but we're both born and raised Americans... Neither of us have family here, and we both pretty much followed our spouses here, fell in love with the place, and are living here with our new families.
I'm 29, he's 54. His wife is 26. I have befriended the wife, she is a very kind woman. She is the kind of woman that allows the man to do whatever he wants. I find this terrible, but it's not my life. He wanted me to go out with her, to kinda show her the "American" way of being... I went... Well, she showed up with a guy... I wrote the guy off as a friend, but then she kissed his hand... I still tried to keep my mind off of it, and innocent until proven guilty... She confessed... So... Could no longer ignore it.
I understand that she is going through some rough shit, I get it. She isn't happy... I understand... But the guy was saying that she is what she is because he's helped her become that... I had to look them in the face and ask them if they were serious... um... the husband pays for her to go to school, he pays for her car, he pays for her credit cards, he pays for anything she wants... I was baffled, and still trying to not think poorly of her.
I ended up just getting up and leaving. It's too much for me. I am not going to say anything to the boss guy, but fuck... that's slimmy to me. I have been struggling to not change my view on her for about 4 days. I DO NOT want to think anything bad of her, and I find myself constantly telling myself to get those thoughts out of my mind. I am at a loss, I don't know how to get it out of my mind, and just move forward with the working relationship.