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Co-sleeping? Why do moms judge me?

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Why is it that mothers have such strong opinions against my babies snuggling at night? 

My husbands military while he was oversees this has alleviated a lot of stress for my BABIES and me. Not JUST me (and) 

although I could say that.

or I could say it's been happening since day 1. With ds2 I voted against it, but he ended up in bed with us at 6mon and hasn't left.

its convienent, I bf so it's easy, even my grandma who has 6 kids was strongly against it, (for her own benefit lol) but her last two she bf, and she recently told me, "oh yeah. They definitely came in bed with me, that was the best part about night feedings, they were easy!" 

Than I have my grandmother in law, who has made crude remarks to me from the beginning.  


So why all the negative feed? What's your stance? 


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 20, 2013 at 11:57 PM
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FL2AK
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:03 AM
I have coslept with all 4 of mine. I don't see the big deal.
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svolkov
by Emerald Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:03 AM
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because in the united states its heavily frowned upon. here they want children to be little independent adults . and because its only really safe if you are breastfeeding and most american women dont...instead we see all these stories about some drugged up junkie suffocating her babies. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:03 AM

I think past 2 it's really not necessary.  JMO, though.  I love having my bed to myself!  lol  And kiddo sleeps like a rock in hers.  :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:04 AM

 I think its because of all of the sad tragic stories we've heard of babies cosleepins. Like suffocation, falling of the bed etc

secondboy2012
by Gold Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:04 AM
My lo is sound asleep inches from me :)
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:04 AM


Oh my gosh! That's so funny, I just used this today with my tmj specialist when trying to describe my pain decreasing, he couldn't understand why I called it that, I was LOOKING for that word. Omg total blonde DAY. Haha.

Quoting marihla:

 eleviated, not elevated lol. The first time I read that I couldn't understand why you would do something that elevates your babies' stress.

Anywho, women judge anything with legs. I wish it weren't that way. We should let each other be parents and do the best we can.



svolkov
by Emerald Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:05 AM
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my kids all bed shared...had zero trouble getting them into their own beds(before 18mo for each) and dh and i have NO intimacy problems...beds are for sleeping lol you CAN have sex many other places;)

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think it makes anyone a "bad" parent if they do it, but  I had twin nephews and their mom rolled over on one and it killed him when he was 4 months old.

Also, it's hard to get them to sleep in their own beds later on and if your husband is home, it's hard to have any intamacy. I think that the bed is a place for mom  & Dad's alone time--- the mom and dad take care of the child ALL day long and wake up with him/her all throughout the night. They don't get much alone time & it's precious when they do.

I nursed all 3 of my children also, and of course there was the ocassional time when a child would end up in our bed for the night, but it wasn't a regular thing, that was our time to snuggle and rest and make love etc... that was our spot. 




marihla
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:05 AM

 I always say I have blonde weeks lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

 

Oh my gosh! That's so funny, I just used this today with my tmj specialist when trying to describe my pain decreasing, he couldn't understand why I called it that, I was LOOKING for that word. Omg total blonde DAY. Haha.

Quoting marihla:

 eleviated, not elevated lol. The first time I read that I couldn't understand why you would do something that elevates your babies' stress.

Anywho, women judge anything with legs. I wish it weren't that way. We should let each other be parents and do the best we can.

 

 

 

TattoodMommy19
by Platinum Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:06 AM
I co slept withboth of my kids from day one.
I bf too, it is easier and felt more normal. I don't judge you.
:D
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briansmommy2010
by Ruby Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:07 AM
When my DS was still nursing, he would start the night in his pack n play, and when he woke up for his first feeding, I would nurse him lying down in bed, and he would just stay there until morning.

If you are practicing safe co-sleeping habits, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, IMO.
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