So I used to work at WalMart-for more than seven years down south, more than ten years total, so when I go to our local store I still know more than half the employees even though it's been almost two years since I quit. I go in today and a lady I was friendly with stopped and her eyes bugged and she says, 'Are we expecting another?' I have two boys, four and nineteen months and Im having my third and last in July. I smiled and said yes. So she smiles knowingly and goes, 'Didnt plan this one, did we?' I was like, seriously? I made this 'are you stupid' face and laughed, 'Yes, actually, we did.' And she was just shocked. She said something else that I cant remember and I replied with I knew what I was doing, Im prepared, and she goes, 'You think you are', still all smiles.
Why on earth do people think you are obligated to stop at two? Or one? Or even that three children is a lot?! (Yes, to some it is but to others it's not-to some people, ONE kid is a lot!) And who the hell is she to tell me I think Im prepared?! Ive wanted three children since before I got married-I was one of two and it never felt complete, so Ive always known we would have three children. When my brother was killed, I even entertained the idea of having a fourth but my husband said he wasnt really interested in four. I was okay with that. We'll have our three and we'll be finished, and we're going to raise them to the best of our ability. Stupid people, thinking you have to have only two, or only one, or for those people who only WANT one, I feel bad for you with everyone asking 'So when are you having another?' It's so aggravating, having everyone 'expect' you to do whatever. Vent over.