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Why do you want to sleep w/other people? Why are you ok w/your SO sleeping w/other people?

If you really loved them wouldn't they be enough for you? Shouldn't you be enough for them?

I have never understood this lifestyle.  I love my DH; I couldn't imagine wanting to be w/another man.

To each their own I respect that; guess I'm just trying to understand.

Bash me bc I'm sure some how this came our wrong; afterall this is MC & you can't sneeze w/o pissing someone off in here.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:26 AM
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Texascandee
by Bronze Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:35 AM

I don't understand it either.  Why get married if you are going to sleep with other men/women?  It's not something I would do nor would I tolerate my SO wanting to do it but if that's what others want to do, that's up to them....

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:37 AM

 I am talking about people who have an SO they say they love, they live with; they "love."  So their spouse they see as just a booty call?

Yeah still doesn't make any sense to me, but then I wouldn't consider that love either.


Quoting Pnukey:

It's like having a home-base. That's the person you go out with first when you want a date or something, and the first person you call for a booty-call. You keep that person until one or both of you want a different home base. My friend is anti-marriage though, so that wasn't an issue. Breaking up with a girlfriend is his regular thing.

It's definitely not a lifestyle I could adapt to, or even try to adapt to.

Quoting Anonymous:

 Ok but then why  be in a relationship,why have a SO/Spouse; why not just go sleep around?

 

Quoting Pnukey:

I don't understand it either, but I do have a friend that is into that. He said it's the excitement of being with so many people that keeps the thrill and interest alive. It's not about love. It's about getting off as much as possible. Take love out of the equation, and there you have it.

 

 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:39 AM
They do that also. When I asked him how he could watch his wife be with someone else, he said he like seeing her pleased.

I honestly think its about both of them being happy. Maybe they both want to sleep around but don't want to lose each other because they love their family life together? Idk I'm still trying to understand it.


Quoting Anonymous:

When I hear people talk about open relationship it isn't 3somes & watching; it is going out & sleeping w/whomever & they don't care as long as they are told & have it wrapped up. 




Quoting Anonymous:

I think she is wrong. I already replied about having a friend who has an open marriage. For him its that he likes to see his wife pleased sexually. He loves her and they are such a sweet family. They have a four yrs old and are constantly doing everything together.



Quoting Anonymous:


 Ok but then why  be in a relationship,why have a SO/Spouse; why not just go sleep around?



 



Quoting Pnukey:



I don't understand it either, but I do have a friend that is into that. He said it's the excitement of being with so many people that keeps the thrill and interest alive. It's not about love. It's about getting off as much as possible. Take love out of the equation, and there you have it.



 



 





 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:40 AM

 I get honesty.

What I don't get is if you love your wife why do you (obviously the you is general) need to go out & sleep w/others & date others?  Why get married?


Quoting Anonymous:

I have a friend who's been in an open marriage with his wife for five years. I'm always asking him questions because I'm trying to understand it and its also a little intriguing.

He asked me if I wanted to date him because I was interested in that lifestyle. I'm single and declined. Were still just friends.

Its all about honesty


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:41 AM
Because you want a family life but also still have sexual fun with others? I would be open to trying it out. I'm still young though so I probably wouldn't feel that way if I was older


Quoting Anonymous:

 I get honesty.


What I don't get is if you love your wife why do you (obviously the you is general) need to go out & sleep w/others & date others?  Why get married?




Quoting Anonymous:

I have a friend who's been in an open marriage with his wife for five years. I'm always asking him questions because I'm trying to understand it and its also a little intriguing.

He asked me if I wanted to date him because I was interested in that lifestyle. I'm single and declined. Were still just friends.

Its all about honesty



 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:43 AM

 I know there are people in open relationships on here so hoping they can help.

I just don't see the appeal in dating someone when you are married, why not date your wife & spice things up that way?  Spice up the sex life?

I guess I just want to know why the person they love isn't enough that they feel the need to date others & sleep w/others.

In the end I guess I will more than likely never understand it bc for me I believe in being w/one person & that sex should be between 2 people who care about each other. 


Quoting Anonymous:

They do that also. When I asked him how he could watch his wife be with someone else, he said he like seeing her pleased.

I honestly think its about both of them being happy. Maybe they both want to sleep around but don't want to lose each other because they love their family life together? Idk I'm still trying to understand it.


Quoting Anonymous:

When I hear people talk about open relationship it isn't 3somes & watching; it is going out & sleeping w/whomever & they don't care as long as they are told & have it wrapped up. 


 


Quoting Anonymous:

I think she is wrong. I already replied about having a friend who has an open marriage. For him its that he likes to see his wife pleased sexually. He loves her and they are such a sweet family. They have a four yrs old and are constantly doing everything together.



Quoting Anonymous:


 Ok but then why  be in a relationship,why have a SO/Spouse; why not just go sleep around?



 



Quoting Pnukey:



I don't understand it either, but I do have a friend that is into that. He said it's the excitement of being with so many people that keeps the thrill and interest alive. It's not about love. It's about getting off as much as possible. Take love out of the equation, and there you have it.



 



 



 


 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:44 AM

Sex is just sex to some people. Its not about caring or love its just about the fuck. They don't put any feelings into that person so its not the same relationship that you have. I could never do it. I only want to be with my DH. But I don't see the harm if thats what they want.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:44 AM

LOL I'm not old; I've never believe in sleeping w/many people.

Why not have sexual fun w/your SO/Spouse/the person you love? 


Quoting Anonymous:

Because you want a family life but also still have sexual fun with others? I would be open to trying it out. I'm still young though so I probably wouldn't feel that way if I was older


Quoting Anonymous:

 I get honesty.


What I don't get is if you love your wife why do you (obviously the you is general) need to go out & sleep w/others & date others?  Why get married?


 


Quoting Anonymous:

I have a friend who's been in an open marriage with his wife for five years. I'm always asking him questions because I'm trying to understand it and its also a little intriguing.

He asked me if I wanted to date him because I was interested in that lifestyle. I'm single and declined. Were still just friends.

Its all about honesty

 


 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:46 AM

Which is why I said to each their own.

Just trying to understand. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Sex is just sex to some people. Its not about caring or love its just about the fuck. They don't put any feelings into that person so its not the same relationship that you have. I could never do it. I only want to be with my DH. But I don't see the harm if thats what they want.


 

almondpigeon
by Ruby Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:46 AM

i don't get it either.  i know a lot of relationships work well this way, but i wouldn't be able to handle it. 

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