My mom died last night. DH wants to pick his boys up from school and called BM to make sure it is OK. He told her about my mom. BM texts me a loving and supportive note offering her condolences and offering anything if I need help.
Fucking bitch has accused me of abuse, dragged me to court, subpoened my financial records, criticized my children, dismissed me as insignificant, mocked me. Basically made my life hell for a couple of years. She has no right entering my world during my grief.
I have great boundaries and don't even consider her anymore. But I was afraid she would do this. And I asked DH not to tell her anything because of this fear. Both BM and SD just want to pretend and act as if the hell they put me through never happened. I don't pretend. Fuck them.
And yeah, I'm angry and disappointed in DH too.
I didn't want her to even enter my consciousness today. And the fucking first text I get is from her.
I want to send her a text and tell her to fuck off. I have been counseled not to. That I should wait.
What would you do? And please give me some ideas for what I should say to her.