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'50 Things You Should Not Say To Autism Parents' PIOG

Posted by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:21 PM
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I have heard them all

Autism is over diagnosed.
I've seen Rainman and Temple Grandin, I totally get it.
He must be really sad to run away so much.
Stop being so sensitive, they were only joking when they called her a (insert nasty hurtful name here).
He just needs to apply himself more.
My kid does that too.
Why do you let him carry that ______ around everywhere?
I can't believe you let your child run around naked.
You need to make her eat more variety. It's not that hard.
At least she can _____. (Talk, walk, smile, etc.)
It must be so nice to get special treatment everywhere.
Are you sure he has autism? He seems fine to me.
God knew you could handle this.
How dare your child not look at me when I'm talking to them!
He can talk, he just doesn't want to.
If you knew she might meltdown why did you come here?
Teaching him is like training a dog. How hard could it be?
She can't have autism; she looked me in the eye.
I have a miracle cure for autism to tell you about.
Disneyland would be much easier for you if you left him home with your mother.
It's good your baby is a girl so she won't have autism like her brothers.
There is nothing wrong with her. She is just quirky.
You just need to force her to sit through it, she'll learn.
I gave up on him and stopped trying.
Have you tried what Jenny McCarthy did?
I can't believe she isn't potty trained already.
Why aren't they doing ______ yet? Have you been working with them?
Isn't she too old for a binkie?
He is so spoiled.
He can't have autism, he is so smart.
If you had enough faith in god, his autism would go away.
She's a girl, she can't have autism.
Did you know ______ causes autism? (Pollution, food, shots, microwaves, inbreeding, mean moms, drug addicted moms, power plants, loud talking, too much TV, etc.)
Kids usually grow out of autism.
They don't need therapy because you’re such a good therapist.
Good thing you’re done having kids. You wouldn't want another one with autism.
How dare you drug your child!
But you’re so normal, how do you have a child with autism?
Does the mean she is really good at ______? (Math, art, music, etc.)
He just needs to be medicated.
He doesn't have autism, he has discipline problems.
Could you please take your son out? He's disturbing everyone.
The way your house is in lock down is absurd.
You should mortgage your home to try ________ therapy.
They are in a normal classroom? Is that ok?
You made up the autism diagnosis for attention.
Make her come give me a hug.
I can't believe you won't come to this crazy, busy, loud, sensory overload event. They would like it I promise.
Everyone has some form of autism.
Can't you just control him?


by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:21 PM
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Caitlin1983
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:26 PM
Wow! You have gear all of these? I'll admit, I don't know much about autism but I would never say any of these things.
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JakesMom712
by Ruby Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:28 PM
A few of those I don't see an issue with depending on the situation.
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jamamama00
by Ruby Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:28 PM
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Wait...is the "Well if you would just beat her ass every now and again she wouldn't act like that" on there?

zomgkerrie
by Geek Goddess on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:29 PM
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I hear "oh, he must be really good at math,music, etc". "I never would have guessed he is Autistic. He has great eye contact." and people immediately will ask "Did you vaccinate?".

StarLight23
by Gold Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:30 PM

Amen. Thank you for posting this!

These are the things that people say every day.

Now nobody has said a rude comment to me personally about my son, but these are the misconceptions people have.

I love someone with Autism :) Proud mommy of one son who has autism is the light of my life and I can't imagine life without him :)we rock


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:30 PM

I picked out a few I have not heard, but yeah... This is pretty standard from people who don't really understand Autism, which is most people. 

bugsmama149
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:31 PM
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Oh my God, you are so right. I can't count how many times I've been on CM and seen women talking about "beating their kid's asses" or "smacking the shit outta them". I detest it.  Some people think that's the answer to all bad behavior....just beat the shit outta them and they'll straighten up. Makes me freakin sick.


Quoting jamamama00:

Wait...is the "Well if you would just beat her ass every now and again she wouldn't act like that" on there?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:33 PM

I hear all the time that it's a fake diagnosis made up by big pharma so I will medicate away my lack of parenting. Like, no shit, all the damn time. I smile back and ask what medications? 

bugsmama149
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:34 PM

Thanks mama. I've definitely heard some of those. With my son's stimming my brother says "he can control it, he just doesn't want to". Ugh.  I have also dealt with a lot of insults about my decision to homeschool him. People just making ignorant statements about something they know nothing about. Walk a mile in our shoes is the saying that comes in real handy in those situations.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 21, 2013 at 5:35 PM
I have a really good friend who's son has autism. I always try to be supportive and not say anything about it or praise him when he does something they've been working on. I hope I've not said something dumb or offensive in doing that.
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