im being terrorized by my mentally ill child .. .UPDATE ..I TRIED TO COMMIT HER..... THELAST UPDATE AND FINALLY ITS OVER !!
i am not a troll i just need to vent , this is going to be long .
my 16 yr old is bipolar , she is also thought to be boarderline personality disorder . She has gone off her meds and refuses treatment and by law in the state i live in there is nothing i can do . I will start back as far as i can remember when things started to get bad , she has always lied stole and been manipulative , when she hit puberty things got extremly bad she became very promiscuous (sp?) she learned that she was a pretty girl and could manipulate anyone expecialy men at her will . Her first serious thing she did was to take her adhd meds to school and pass them out to her friends, she was placed on probation , a year latter she took alcohol to school , she was expeled and sent to a alternative school (bad kid school), where she learned to behave even worse she has always been a bully and picked on the younger children , she found that there was a lot of pregnant girls there also , she wanted the attention they got and actualy convinced the teachers , students and even the guidence concilors that my youngest son was her child !Even in public she would try to keep up the lie , when i found out i told everyone that this is my son not hers , she convinced everyone that i was so embarassed by the situation that i was raising him as my son ! She also found that if someone made her angery all she had to do was make up a lie and get them in trouble she accused 3 boys that year of inappropriate touching her in private areas , there is so much more im trying to shorten it to the important things .
the only person who could ever handle her was my husband , he could always get her to stop in her tracks , he was a good dad some times alittle to strict but he did it because he cared . On day cps knocks on my door ,they tell me that there has been a report made that my husband has touched my daughter inapropriately , it was investigated and found no evidence and police refused to procicute it because of her history of seriouse lies . Mean while i had been seeking mental help for her and she had been seeing a therapist , She finaly had a temper explosion and they all got to see the real her it was bad enough they recomended a in patient psych eval , were she was diagnosed as bipolar , it took awhile for her meds to get adjusted , she was put on somthing that made her even more violent than she was normaly ,so because she was a danger to the younger children in the house they sent her to a inpatient faciluty for 9 months . my husband left because he was afraid of being accused of anything else .
when she came home she was fine for awhile about 4 months after being let out she went back to her old behaviors abusing the small children in the house and being absolutly defient . On her little sisters birthday she ran off and got drunk i dont know how she made it home but she was so drunk she passed out i had her hauled off by ems i didnt know at the time if she was overdosed on her meds or what . My husband had enough and so had i ,i made the awful decision to send my little ones to live with him while i still was trying to get her help .
a few months latter i find her and her boyfriends calander , they were trying to get pregnant on purpose so they could get married and live happily ever after ,the boys mother and i talked sense into them , we think anyway .
Now this whole time things around my house are disapearing money , jewlery , clothes , just odd things , we know its her but we cant catch her . come to find out for many months she has been speaking to her father (i forgot to mention when i speak of my husband he is her step father ) her actual father is a abusive drug addict i divorced many years ago and has never been a part of her life , well they have been speaking on face book , no one told me about it when i found out i hit the roof , he was ordered no contact with the children when we divorced .
so this past superbowl sunday im out at the store when her boyfriend calls me and says you need to come home right now ! He tells me that her father is in the nieghborhood and is watching us , the boy sends me the messages , the messages are detailed telling everyone what they are wearing and what they are doing . I am terrified of this man i called the police immediately they came out and took a report , they asked to see my restraining order i went to get it and thats when i found the key to my safe was missing . So because i needed it i started to drill out the lock on the safe , the phone rings and my daughter answers it and starts screaming that he is outside and is watching us , well i am terrified and call the police again , i also call my husband who moved to another state because of work , he drives back to my home to protect us from the bad ex husband . Well he sits her and the boyfriend down and after talking to them both the story starts to not make any sense . After telling him about the phone call her checks the house phone it was her she did the thing were you make the phone ring back to the house . He also got my safe open and found that a diamond braclet and my coin collection was stolen . I went to the police and told them , they found that the theatening texts and emails were coming from her email address . why would she do this .
Now this past weekend she goes to a friends house to spend the weekend , Come to find out she went house hopping all weekend to parties ,she ended up at a drug party i had to pull her out of . Needless to say she is grounded , well she asks me lastnight if she can go out this weekend , i say no your grounded, this causes a tempertantrum . I left the room when my name went from mom to fucking bitch . I locked my bedroom door she tries to break the door down yelling im not finished with you ! I call the police expecting to get back up , haha ! In the state i live in im told 16 yr olds are concidered adults and she can come and go as she pleases ! So they watch her pack her stuff and leave with friends even though i say she cant leave ! I go down and speak with the case worker to see what can be done , she informs me that yes the laws are screwed up here she is concidered a adult and can go when she pleases , BUT HERES THE SCREWED UP PART ! when she comes back and if i dont let her in i can be charged with neglect ! she can live were she wants but if she dont go to school or breaks a law im held accountable !!!!! Even though she has gone off her meds and refuses treatment that is her right , but if i dont try to continue providing it i get charged with neglect !!!! How the hell does the law tie a parents hands like that ! how do you control a out of control child when all my parentel rights are taken out of my hands !!!! this child needs help and i cant do anything about it , ive left so much out of this noone will understand , this child has made our lives a living nightmare !!
UPDATE ..........she found out i was talking with her social worker and decided i have no other opption to force her into help other than to make her a ward of the state , they can then put her in a inpatient faciluty and on meds , she ranaway 2 days ago .....another update she has just been found im on my way to pick her up
LAST UPDATE ....... i tried to commit her lastnight , she went violent again , me and her sister locked ouselves in the bedroom to get away from her . She put scratches on her neck and called the cops saying i attacked her , im so glad i had a witness or i would be in jail , i went and took out commitment papers they were granted by the magistrate , she went to the county hospital for obsevation , she convinced them that she is a abused child , they futher stated she dont have to take meds and that i may want to concider therapy for myself . She is very manipulative , she laughed all the way home and said dont ever try to do that again . Im finished i cant do this anymore , she acctualy convinced them that im insane
THE END ........she ran away again , but this time the cops were right behind her , they found her in 3 hours , she was trying to go to another state to live with a guy shes known a week , the cops tracked her down and had me allow her to stay there while i tried to find a faciluty for her . The cops went to the house about every 2 hours to make sure she didnt leave . They convinced her that she does need therapy and medication , she has agreed to go to a theraputic foster home and participate in dbt therapy she leaves tomarrow , im so relived