Mind you, he just moved out on Monday. But since he lost his job as an actual professional last January he has turned into a monster. He took a job as a bartender (he's 51, too old for this crap) and didn't treat it like a job, he's treated it like a lifestyle. He's become a bar whore. And he has a whore, too, who he won't end it with. He LOVES her, you know (although she's married with 4 kids and every bit the whore he is). Ive known for a little while but finally had concrete proof on Monday so POOF he's gone.
Anyway he occasionally asks to speak to his son and today he asked if he could stop by and see him (by the way I said he could and he never showed, which doesn't surprise me at all.).
I was talking to my son, trying to get him to open up about any feelings he might be having. He just keeps saying "no, I don't want to talk to him or see him. He never keeps his promises and he's never home and when he is all he does is yell."
Well, this is true and I don't blame him. He's never really been a part of his son's life.
But his father is eventually going to blame ME for keeping his son from him. I'm not. But I'm afraid it's going to get ugly.
My stbx knows that I will get sole physical and legal custody of my child and has no problem with that- again, he's never had anything to do with raising this kid. And visitation will be at my discresion, nothing scheduled. But if my son keeps refusing to see or speak with him I'm afraid that he's going to claim alienation of affection or something. I swear i'm not. I ask every evening if he wants to call his dad or for his dad to stop by and he is adamant that he doesn't want to.