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talking to another man

Anonymous
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ive recently been contemplating talking to another man other than dh. I know if dh ever.found out he would leave me (or so he says) I dont want to ruin my marriage or hurt dh I just miss male attention and for some reason dh's attention just isnt cutting it, anyone else go through this or have any advice?
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 22, 2013 at 3:26 AM
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20Keller12
by on Feb. 22, 2013 at 3:28 AM
Tell your dh you need more attention from him.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 22, 2013 at 3:32 AM
I felt the same way when I was married. I did start talking to another man, just online. It turned into texting and then phone calls. I told my husband about it, but he said he didn't care because "he trusted me." It never went past phone calls, but it made me realize we weren't happy in our marriage anymore. We split 4 months later.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 22, 2013 at 3:37 AM
I was thinking about just online as well thanks for sharing


Quoting Anonymous:

I felt the same way when I was married. I did start talking to another man, just online. It turned into texting and then phone calls. I told my husband about it, but he said he didn't care because "he trusted me." It never went past phone calls, but it made me realize we weren't happy in our marriage anymore. We split 4 months later.

tharealty2
by on Feb. 22, 2013 at 3:38 AM
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Of course many women have been thru this - well, 'this' being, feeling a little neglected and wanting some attention and/or being attracted to some one else.  My advice? Honor your vows.  Talk to your husband, tell him your unhappy - go to counselng.  Cut this other guy out've your life.  Marriage is a commitment, not a 'plan A'

Emmakins84
by on Feb. 22, 2013 at 3:56 AM
Talking and working things out can help in some situations. Sometimes, though, its not meant to be and vows or no vows, its time to walk away.


Quoting tharealty2:

Of course many women have been thru this - well, 'this' being, feeling a little neglected and wanting some attention and/or being attracted to some one else.  My advice? Honor your vows.  Talk to your husband, tell him your unhappy - go to counselng.  Cut this other guy out've your life.  Marriage is a commitment, not a 'plan A'


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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 22, 2013 at 4:02 AM
sometimes I debate if ive fallen out of love but the thought of not being with him or seeing him everyday makes me sad and I feel like if I leave or end it im going to regret it.


Quoting Emmakins84:

Talking and working things out can help in some situations. Sometimes, though, its not meant to be and vows or no vows, its time to walk away.




Quoting tharealty2:

Of course many women have been thru this - well, 'this' being, feeling a little neglected and wanting some attention and/or being attracted to some one else.  My advice? Honor your vows.  Talk to your husband, tell him your unhappy - go to counselng.  Cut this other guy out've your life.  Marriage is a commitment, not a 'plan A'



Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 22, 2013 at 4:08 AM
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I had an emotional affair with a long-term male friend. We spent a lot of time together. I told him everything. This lasted for 2 years, I fell in love with him and he said he was in love with me. My dh kinda thought we were too close, but it wasn't physical while I was married. It did become so after I left. I realized that if I was lonely enough to fall in love with someone else, that may e it was time to go. We did counseling, but the counselor said my dh had checked out and didn't care anymore. I would say leave first, but good luck with whatever you choose. It's kinda. Lose/ lose situation:(
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 22, 2013 at 4:13 AM
we have been to counseling but dh quit going because he didnt want to relive things and hear abt how he was always wrong and fucking up


Quoting Anonymous:

I had an emotional affair with a long-term male friend. We spent a lot of time together. I told him everything. This lasted for 2 years, I fell in love with him and he said he was in love with me. My dh kinda thought we were too close, but it wasn't physical while I was married. It did become so after I left. I realized that if I was lonely enough to fall in love with someone else, that may e it was time to go. We did counseling, but the counselor said my dh had checked out and didn't care anymore. I would say leave first, but good luck with whatever you choose. It's kinda. Lose/ lose situation:(

Ninjascreenname
by Gold Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 4:16 AM
No. Have more respect for yourself than to step outside of your marriage like that. Talk to your spouse and tell him you need more attention and or affection. Don't sell yourself short and risk losing your family over talking to someone else. Having attention isn't worth losing it all, is it?
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CityofRosesMama
by on Feb. 22, 2013 at 4:20 AM
Marriage is a commitment and responsibility. It's not about just about getting attention. We often start with passionate love and then evolve into companionate love. Passionate love only lasts a few months to a year and then we start to learn to love our spouse with a deeper love that goes beyond selfish desires. Do you have children with this man? If so, it's not about attention it's about taking care of your responsibilities. Have you told him how you feel? Maybe he feels the same way. Try bringing back passion with him first. Being a two-timer is not smart. Is he faithful to you?
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