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What's the chance of him having herpes?

Anonymous
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My DH and I separated for two years. During that time he slept with another female who has an awful reputation during a one night stand.

Since then he and I have gotten back together. I asked him if they used protection, he informed me no but she had her test papers to prove she had been recently tested and tested negative (herpes was not listed on the testing papers).

Today I found out that the man she had a baby with 3 years ago has genital herpes. They have a baby together so I'm assuming she has them too. DH said there was nothing weird going on down stairs so he didn't think anything of it. So I'm assuming if she does have it, she didn't have an outbreak at the time.

What are the odds of him having it then? Can it be transferred even when she wasn't during an outbreak? We have no way of contacting her to ask if she is positive for them to be sure.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:01 PM
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macysmom
by Platinum Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:02 PM
Have him and yourself tested!
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kirstina
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:03 PM
Idk
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:04 PM

We are!! I'm just scared that since I know it can lie dormant that it will be negative then pop up positive later.

Quoting macysmom:

Have him and yourself tested!


kirstina
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:04 PM
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Also who carries around std papers to show a one night stand?
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Homeschoolmom99
by Silver Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:04 PM


Quoting macysmom:

Have him and yourself tested!


jamamama00
by Platinum Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:05 PM

Your husband prob would have had an outbreak by now if he'd contracted them. One of my friends has been married to a girl with the herp for years now and hasn't gotten them. From what I understand, there really isn't a reliable test to tell if someone has the virus, so maybe that's why it wasn't on the papers.

gblossom
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:05 PM



Quoting macysmom:

Have him and yourself tested!



Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:06 PM
Dr Oz said theres an app for it now to...to show your partners your STD status...


Quoting kirstina:

Also who carries around std papers to show a one night stand?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:07 PM

Apparently she carries them with her. I applaud her for getting tested regularly but she KNEW her baby daddy has herpes and didn't inform my DH that there is a chance she could have had it as well. 

Quoting kirstina:

Also who carries around std papers to show a one night stand?


Val99
by Ruby Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:08 PM

This sounds like a bunch of BS told to make the wife calm down.

Quoting kirstina:

Also who carries around std papers to show a one night stand?


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