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HUGE UPDATE!!! Has this ever been STOLEN from you?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Update: So late last night while SO was at work he text me and came clean. He took them. Which I already knew based on the facts and my gut feeling.

He said he was super pissed and stressed
Wasnt thinking at all and had a momentary lapse of judgment. He said he felt bad after he left my place, and got scared cause he's never stolen anything before. He said he then got rid of the pills. I asked him what he did with them and he said he gave them to some old drunk guy at the bar.

At this point I was FURIOUS!
I asked him why he didnt just confess and give them back when I had him come over to get his things out of my place. He said he didnt want to do that in front of my friend. So I told him that he obviously values his pride over hurting me the one person he claims to love. I told him to grow up, man up and own what he did and stop making excuses.

Then I asked him if he really didnt take any and to be honest. He said he took one and gave the rest to the old guy. Once again I was pissed he didnt tell me the whole truth when he confessed. I told him I cant trust him at all, what he did severely hurt me, and I cant have my daughter around someone who does things like that and now ill always worry on if it would happen again.

So I told him were done and that it was a deal breaker. I do love him very much but this is something too serious. At least to me it is.




Ok, so I need advice from people that had this happen to them.



I get a prescription every month for Percocet due to my stage 4 endometriosis. My period is due in 2 days, so I dropped my script off yesterday at Walgreens. My car is now broken. So I asked if my SO could please pick it up for me. He did, dropped it off, and left right away to go meet his parents.



Later in the day while in my kitchen, I noticed the bag wasnt stapled shut anymore. I thought it was odd. So I decided to count the pills. I am 4 pills short. I called Walgreens and they originally double counted it before it was picked up, and then they counted the stock bottle just to make sure. Their numbers were correct and they were not 4 pills over.



My SO was the only person to have access to it before I did. I confronted him on it and he swears to God he did not take them. He said he loves me way too much to do anything so stupid. That he'd never take my meds that are for me to help my excruciating pain.



I automatically blamed him. For the fact that growing up he used to do drugs and pills. He's been sober a few years now and often says how he'd never want to go down that road again. Especially since one of his best friends died due to a pill overdose.



I want to believe him, I really do, but its hard to argue the facts. I need to ensure my dd and I are safe and he knows that ANY drug use that isnt prescribed to him by a doctor is an automatic deal breaker.



I told him to get his things and leave for now. I just feel so hurt. If you've had this happen to you, how did that person act? How did you go about it, and what did you do?
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:41 PM
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headingsouth13
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:58 PM

 it was bottles of vicodin and oxycontin

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh wow. Thats horrible!

Quoting headingsouth13:

 i have had whole bottles stolen

 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:59 PM
I just see that all the facts point to him, kwim? How could it NOT be him. I have had 3 surgeries for it. This last one my doc couldn't remove any of it because its like cement and on my surrounding organs now. :-(

Quoting Anonymous:

Tell him you will forgive him if he returns the pills or if he at least admits it.

There doesn't seem much trust between the two of you.

If it were my dh and he said he didn't take them, I'd believe him. But, he wouldn't take them, so I guess it is a moot point.

I am sorry you have to go through this. Is there any hope for your endometriosis? I've had it burnt off and also took some medication that made it "dry" up---it was a like pseudo-menopause, with hot flashes and everything. Mine was mild, though.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:59 PM

yup. my husband stole a bunch of vicodin I had. thankfully I didn't need it anymore. and of course your SO lied. he obviously thinks you are dumb enough to believe that a stranger broke in and stole only 4 pills.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:59 PM
CAn that kind of drug be tested for? That's what I would do if it's a possibility.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:59 PM
Im thinking of drug testing him. That way I know for sure.

Quoting JessT5280:

Yep. My ex husband used to steal my pills all the time. I would have to count any and all medication that I received. It sucked.
I made him take a drug test, which of course he failed ... he said he took a Vicodin from a co worker. *eye roll*

KristenFowles
by Ruby Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:59 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

But he hasnt come clean and I doubt he will. Hes so adamant he didnt take them. He keeps sending me texts saying he swears he didnt take them and he loves me so much. Part of me wants to get an at home drug test. =\

Quoting KristenFowles:

 I'm sorry momma but.. It was probably him.. :/


I don't see it as something you CAN'T work through if he comes clean about it though..

 Wallgreens isn't going to give the bag to anyone unstapled.. and he's the ONLY one that had it..  The person who repeats themselves OVER AND OVER again.. are those with a guilty conscience..  If he continues to play innocent.. You really may need to step back and look at this situation.. if he's lying NOW, what else is he going to lie about down the road?  Were these pills a one time thing?  Or is he relapsing??

I really wish you the best <3

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 23, 2013 at 11:00 PM
Yes it can, and im seriously considering it.

Quoting Anonymous:

CAn that kind of drug be tested for? That's what I would do if it's a possibility.
banana-bear
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 11:02 PM

The bag would have been stapled shut if it came directly from the pharmacy without him opening it. If he is the only other person living with you, it has to be him. Don't let him try to make you doubt the obvious.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 23, 2013 at 11:02 PM
Thanks. Hes been pretty cranky lately but hes been really stressed at work. But he never seems like hes high or anything. He seems normal. So im hoping this is a one time occourance.

Quoting KristenFowles:

Quoting Anonymous:

But he hasnt come clean and I doubt he will. Hes so adamant he didnt take them. He keeps sending me texts saying he swears he didnt take them and he loves me so much. Part of me wants to get an at home drug test. =\


Quoting KristenFowles:


 I'm sorry momma but.. It was probably him.. :/



I don't see it as something you CAN'T work through if he comes clean about it though..


 Wallgreens isn't going to give the bag to anyone unstapled.. and he's the ONLY one that had it..  The person who repeats themselves OVER AND OVER again.. are those with a guilty conscience..  If he continues to play innocent.. You really may need to step back and look at this situation.. if he's lying NOW, what else is he going to lie about down the road?  Were these pills a one time thing?  Or is he relapsing??


I really wish you the best <3

LADYxGHOST
by Bronze Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 11:02 PM

I would suspect him to. He had them, now they are gone.  Can he account for who took them then? I would contact his parents to find out whe he meet them is at all.  If I had tweens or teens I would talk to them to see if perhaps they took them. But honestly, it could have been too much temptation for him.  I would tell him that slate is clear and if he answers truefully there is no hard feelings and you want to help him if he backslide.  ask him, and beleive him.  if he tells you he took them, be true to your word, never let him near your meds again and request he join a support group and let that be the end of it. Tell the doctor the pills fell down the sink.  If he says he didnt do it and he starts acting guilty or extra nice, he took them and proceed with caution.  If you never figure out what happened in a few weeks bring it up again, if he acts real defensive or angry, or pretend not to remeber what you are talking about he took them. I

This is a crapy thing to have to be dealing with right now. I am sorry.

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