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the assistant principal at DS's school can go suck it!

Anonymous
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I understand that DS is a bit of a hellion as of late. I've talked with his teacher. I've talked with the teacher's assistant (every day, as I'm picking DS up when class ends). I've made him deliver a hand-written apology card to the lunch ladies he threw food at. I've talked with the school counselor. I've talked with the nurse. I've talked with the secretaries. I've talked with the principal (informally, by the way -- he's admitted that he never once felt the need to call me to his office because I've already handled things by the time he found out about them).

Somehow, this idiot of a woman missed the memo. I am making it EXTREMELY hard to miss that I acknowledge and am taking steps to help him control and correct his behavior (more on this in a second). Yet she seems to think it's ok to make veiled threats at "further disciplinary action" and insult my parenting for things that most certainly are not allowed at home and are, in a word, baffling.

Diciplinary action, by the way, that the principal and I had discussed openly in the general office where two other parents and various other staff could hear.

I'm sorry, but my son is suffering from the effects of sleep apnea. How do I know it's sleep apnea, she asks as if I'm making up excuses? HOW ABOUT THE FACT THAT HE STOPS BREATHING FOR FIFTEEN SECONDS AT A TIME UP TO THREE TIMES A HOUR?!?! How many nights a week? Not that it really matters, but every fucking night, thankyouforyourfuckingconcern. That's why he gets a minimum of 11 hours of sleep every night and still naps for a couple hours after school most days. That's why he's especially difficult when he is more than 24 hours fever free but still recovering from the respiratory-clogging effects of the flu. That's why I made the arrangement with the nurse, secretary and his teacher that he is able to take a 30 minute nap if he is having an especially bad day.

Oh, but lack of quality sleep has NOTHING to do with ADHD-like behavior, especially when it comes so suddenly, she chides me with a knowing look. I'm still just writing his behavior off, apparently. Glad she knows so much more than not only his pediatrician but also an Ear Nose and Throat specialist with 20 years of working with kids under his belt.

Well, she can just go suck it. I have been completely honest with everyone who has brought a concern to me regarding my son's behavior. Not one of them before her had the balls to imply that my son was raised without basic manners, especially after the lunchroom incident. Not one of them has dared to imply that I am writing off his behavior. Not one of them has had a single problem with the way I have handled things thus far. Oh, and not one of them has blamed their lack of basic phone-using skills on a false assumption that I can't keep a working phone.

Oh, and by the way, she can get off her high horse and stop insisting people call her "assistant dean of students."  She works at a public school, she's an Assistant Principal working under a man who has no problem with the title Principal, FFS!

Ugh, the woman is so annoying.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:31 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:33 AM
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The worse part of sending my kid to public school is having to deal with parents like YOU...ugh...
opal10161973
by on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:35 AM
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Wow!  She sounds like a douchebag.  I'm sorry.

RaynesMommy07
by Ruby Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:35 AM
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What are you doing to help his sleep apnea? Idk I would probably think you were making excuses too. Throwing food at the lunch ladies due to sleep apnea, especially when the kid is allowed naps at school? Just not ok.
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by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:38 AM
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Most of an AP's job is to deal with disciplinary problems with students. That's why the principal is ok with your son, seemingly, while the AP is making you upset because you need to do something about his behavior.

I'm sorry that your child has sleep apnea. However, he still needs to control HIMSELF and not act out because he is grumpy and tired. You, as the parent, have to work on that problem at home. It is your responsibility to make sure he behaves himself at school. Sorry, but there are no excuses.

When you send your child to school in a herd, he has to act like one of the cattle.

You know, your son would be an ideal candidate for homeschooling.

(I am a homeschooling mom married to an AP).

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:38 AM
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Seriously?My kid has ADHD and Autism and he knows better than to do that crap. I blame your parenting too. Glad I have my kids in a private school.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:40 AM

saving my spot

dmarie2101
by Ruby Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:41 AM
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i'd be tired of your kid, too.

he sounds like a terror.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:41 AM
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Get a c- pap if its so bad, problem of sleep apnea solved. Disapline your son and stop making excuses.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:43 AM

All I can do until his surgery to remove his tonsils and adenoids is help him get enough sleep, and just one night can throw him off for a week. It sucks, but at least it won't be a problem soon


Quoting RaynesMommy07:

What are you doing to help his sleep apnea? Idk I would probably think you were making excuses too. Throwing food at the lunch ladies due to sleep apnea, especially when the kid is allowed naps at school? Just not ok.



RaynesMommy07
by Ruby Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 2:45 AM
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Lack of sleep still is no reason for him to do these sort of things. Everyone gets tired and grumpy he has no right to act out.

Quoting Anonymous:

All I can do until his surgery to remove his tonsils and adenoids is help him get enough sleep, and just one night can throw him off for a week. It sucks, but at least it won't be a problem soon



Quoting RaynesMommy07:

What are you doing to help his sleep apnea? Idk I would probably think you were making excuses too. Throwing food at the lunch ladies due to sleep apnea, especially when the kid is allowed naps at school? Just not ok.




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