My husband and I had our first baby last month. My mother in law offered to do anything we needed since we would be busy with our new baby and unable to leave the house as often etc. She started doing our food shopping for us and would not accept our money. Now I'm all healed and have gotten used to life with a baby and I'm ready to start doing my own errands again. The thing is by her doing our grocery shopping we are obviously saving a ton of money (especially since I am still out of work for a couple more weeks). She still calls us every week to see what we need and I love it, it gives me more time with my baby also. I mentioned this to my mom and she freaked out saying I need to stop this because I am giving MIL full control over our family. I don't plan to have MIL do this forever, but I was thinking of taking advantage until I can start working again and getting paid. Am I giving her full control of our family by allowing this to happen? Does she view me as someone who cannot provide for her own family?