lies about the small stuff

[Anonymous]

Is it true, in your opinion that if someone lies about the small stuff or keeps it from you, they will almost always lie about the bigger things? For example, a spouse lies to you about buying game extensions online (farmville, poker, candy crush, etc), willthey lie to you about bigger things?

Would you worry? Or just brush it off?

[Anonymous]

I have always wondered about that. I think if they can lie or what my dh would say I just didn't think to mention it how much other stuff they do lie about.

[robyann]

I"d say yes, if they feel lying is ok then it's ok for them. They won't think it out and say well this is ok to lie about but not that. I feel  if a person lies consistantly, even about small things, they are a liar. 

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. Dh buys weights...like for lifting, all the damn time. He will hide them from me because, at this point, they're a huge waste of money. He just doesn't want to argue about it, but I don't *think* he's ever hidden or lied about anything big.

[Anonymous]

Sadly, I'm a compulsive liar when it comes to the little things. I don't know why I just do. I feel the need to make a story more interesting even if the story doesn't need it.

But I've never lied about a big thing. If there is the chance I'll get caught I won't lie. People tend to check out the big things, not so much the little things.

[Nynnie]

I'd say yeah, if they lie about dumb things, they'll have no problem lying about important things.

[Anonymous]

I'd be worried. DF has lied about big things in the past and we went to counseling. Every once in awhile I'll catch him in a white lie and wonder what else I don't know.

[happehcrone]

A lie is a lie is a lie.  Period.  In fact, if someone were inclined to lie about something so stupid and trivial as FaceBook games, I think I'd really be worried - because what point could there really be in it?  I mean, what real purpose would lying about such things have?  So they are doing it simply because they can.  There is NEVER a reason to lie - however, I'm saying in some situations you could see what might motivate a person try  to hide something.  But a person who lies about everything, all the time, because they can?  I'm pretty sure that is a pathological liar.  I've had the misfortune to know a couple.  Very weird - and they will NOT tell the truth even if you catch them red-handed and balls-to-the-wall!!  They just continue to deny.  Lying is a "deal-breaker" between my hubby and I - we NEVER do it, and I mean NEVER.  We both have a thing about trust issues and lying of any sort would destroy the trust we have in one another.

[Tesserae]

Liars generally have no boundaries, so yeah, I'd worry.

[allyn9]

I would worry.

[Anonymous]

I'd worry