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Divorce over Porn...?

Anonymous
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Well My DH and I have always had issues about porn, I dont like it, he does, at first it was crazy fights about it! well even though I absolutely hate it, ive tried to push it off and not think about if he does it or not, we havent faught about it in a while, I found out he had watched it recently and we got into an arguement about it, well after we faught like cats and dogs, I finally try to sit him down and try to talk to him about it, I told him(AGAIN) how it makes me feel, and asked him if I could ask him questions bc I was honestly curious, I do wanna understand bc I know we both see it differently, but he will talk to me for like a second and then he blows up about it,  Yes I know hes a grown man and men watch porn as everyone says, but we have sex daily and I just feel like am I not satisfing my DH, so I wanna know why he feels he needs to watch it if im making him happy, But He just goes around in circles, and Neither of us understands where each other stands with it, I dont want to destory my family over this shit and I WILL NOT, but we just keep fighting about it, We did talk about divorce, But Thats not what I want, He thinks I hate him for all of this, Yes im angry but I would never do anything that would hurt my family(KIDS,DH AND I) , I dont know how to even try to work through BS because were really not even speaking as 2adults right now... UGH Why the hell cant we just get along?  I Know alot of people let this kill their marrige and family and I refuse to let it happen, I just dont know where to begin to even talk to him when hes irrate and i am too... 

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 26, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:21 PM

I really need some advice on this bs, lol...  I know alot of you women are ok with porn and looking for your in put as well!!  :)

HelloSweetie
by Gold Member on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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Maybe just let him be with his porn? Why do you need to talk with him about it?

(not being rude just wondering)

Youngmother456
by on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:27 PM
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I think that you need to understand that it isnt about you not satisfying him.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:30 PM
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I think that you are being inconsiderate and controlling. You make something he likes to do about you and you are trying to CONTROL him.

If he has sex with you and you are satisfied then just let it go.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:32 PM
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You will get bashed, but this is a very normal and valid feeling a lot of women have. I felt the same way. I'm not saying I made the right decision, because I really don't know, but he was obviously not going to stop, so I just got over it and started looking with him and making it an us thing kind of. It stung at first, but I got over it. I was tired of letting it play on my insecurities and get to me, and I was tired of the fighting and sneaking. That's what *I* did. You already know one thing. He's not going to stop. Now you need to decide if you can get over that, or get over him. Good luck.

alyssa1
by Bronze Member on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:32 PM
Have u tried watching it with him? If u have sex daily why is it a problem?
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bmcandmmh
by Michelle on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:32 PM
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Gross. He's completely disrespectful. I would be divorcing ASAP. I don't know why u are putting up with this. Porn is a serious addiction. And it's complete filth. It has no place at my house.
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iwillstapleyou
by on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:33 PM
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You've reached an impasse. You know his stance on it. He clearly isn't willing to change that behavior because it bothers you. You have to decide whether you can accept it and live a happy life with him, or if it is a deal breaker to you. Fighting like cats and dogs won't solve anything.
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bmcandmmh
by Michelle on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:33 PM
And like someone else said. Learn to accept it if you are going to stay because he will never stop.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 26, 2013 at 2:33 PM

if you guys have a healthy sex life then let it go.  Let him do his thing.  Mine used to have a huge porn collection and tossed it all when he moved in with me.  Our sex life is also dead now. 

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