I've have always taught him, not to hit. If someone hits you walk away.....tell a teacher, just ignore whoever is bothering you.
Zero tolerance for physical violence. Is this wrong?
My son is in preschool and for most of the year he has been picked on by 2 boys. They tease him, one day they'll let my son play with them, then the next day say he's not allowed. They push him around, throw snow in his face, they have thrown rocks at him etc.
All this time I've been telling him to just walk away and tell a teacher.
Well today he came home with a goose egg on his head 2 scratches and a bruise all in the same area of his head. Apparently these 2 boys pushed him down in some rocks and my son got hurt.
For whatever reason, the teaches didn't punish these 2 boys. They just told my son"oh, we'll keep an eye on them from now on" I am not satisfied with his.
My son threw snow at a kid once and got put on time out, which I totally agreed with 100%. One other time he yanked on a girl and again, got put in time out, which of course I agreed with and he was also punished at home. I take these things very seriously and it only took him to be punished once for these things and they have never happened again.
My husband has been saying for months that we should be teaching him to hit back. I have been against this. I don't want him to resort to physical violence for ANY reason but when the teachers won't do anything, then what? Do I just go with my husbands lead and have him teach our son to physically defend himself? I don't know. My husband wants to properly train our son in martial arts. He is a black belt in Karate, Kung fu, Ninjutsu and wants to train our son in these.
I am going back and forth. Even when we said to him today that maybe he needs to start sticking up for himself and if they hit him first he should give them a whack back... he said "but I don't want to hurt them mommy"
I don't know what to do. Well, I am making a phone call to his preschool tomorrow. I don't like the way they dealt with this incident today.