i don't know if its really about regrets or just about missing the experiences most others had. I went to high school from 9Th-11Th grade. I was a cheerleader but i wasn't really "friends" with many people in my school. I tested out early because i wanted to start college. When i started college that was my focus and nothing else so i didn't make many friends in college either. After i finished school completely my dh and I got married and started a family. So now Im a SAHM with only a few select friends. I constantly feel like i missed out on something but I love my life and family. Its hard to feel so lonely.
I missed the fun of the selfish 20's myself. I wish I could go back in time, tell myself to grow a brain and wait until I'm the age I am now to have my kids. Don't get me wrong- I don't regret the kids I have. I just should have waited a lot longer than I did to have them.
what you really missed out on is a bunch of cattiness, backbiting, two-facedness. I don't know that I would consider that a bad thing.
people who have a large group of friends are often not truly close with any of them. if you have a small handful of true friends that you know you can count on through thick and thin, and who know they can rely on you when the need a shoulder to cry on or a partner in crime, then you're ahead of a great many people. count your blessings, not your losses.
i think thats another thing my husband is 7 years my senior so he had the time to experience more then i feel i did
Quoting TugBoatMama:
I missed the fun of the selfish 20's myself. I wish I could go back in time, tell myself to grow a brain and wait until I'm the age I am now to have my kids. Don't get me wrong- I don't regret the kids I have. I just should have waited a lot longer than I did to have them.
aw, you did not miss out on much!!!! What- being a drunken a-hole? Getting STD's? A baby before you were ready, and the courtroom and custody drama over child support? Someone else's kid in your marriage? Always dealing with the other guy?
Just make a few GOOD friends now and count your blessings!!!!!! Get out in your area and do some volunteer things- make yourself part of your community and you will not be lonely!
i dont really drink either does my husband. I know the things i didnt do are things most people regret later. I just wish i did more before i settled down. but when I retire my kids will all be grown so Ill be able to make up for it and travel all other the place later on.
Quoting JanineDeer:
aw, you did not miss out on much!!!! What- being a drunken a-hole? Getting STD's? A baby before you were ready, and the courtroom and custody drama over child support? Someone else's kid in your marriage? Always dealing with the other guy?
Just make a few GOOD friends now and count your blessings!!!!!! Get out in your area and do some volunteer things- make yourself part of your community and you will not be lonely!
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!