for once try and NOT judge and try and understand why.. ETA*** 03/01/13!!!!!!! response!
When i was 15 i met my now ex DH, we dated for 3 years then we got married, after a year of being married we divorced, only to reunite 9 months after that divorce, we got engaged again and prepared to get remarry, But this time we agreed to take our time and fix our issues and save up for a big wedding (not another court wedding like the first time). so here we are 5 years later with one child who is 9 months. We have ended our relationship, realizied that we may have just grew apart.. we dont get along anymore.. and our relationship is unstable and unhealthy.
when i was 16 i met another boy his name (fake name) was rico. he was complete opposite from my exdh, he was peurto rican, with a funny personality bubbly, loved to make me laugh type.. whenever dh and i would go through our childish problems and break up for two three days i would call rico. (we never would have sex) he would tell me to come over, wed go to parties, play video games, or hed take me to his family's houses and we would have drinks play cards etc...(im not talking about underage drinking rememeber this is from 16 onward my entire relationship) a part of me fell in love with rico, for over 3years we did this secret meet up and he didnt ask me for anything in return.. hed listen to my sob stories give me advice, maybe a kiss on the cheek etc... well one of these years we had sex.. it was great. about 4 more years go by still sme thing between us id only call him when dh and i were fighting and broken up out of 7 years we had sex only 3 times. when i got pregnant however with dh. rico and i went out of contact for almost a year..
now im single and i miss him.. i think about him everyday, i dont have his number only his facebook. i never told rico i loved him i never told him that if he wouldve said to me (sarah fakename) leave your dh and be with me i would have in a heart beat, i never seen or heard of him being in a relationship so i never made that point to him either.. he was one of those "relationships" where the two of you knew how you feel about eachother without saying it type of thing.
now i heard he has dd only about a month old.. we got into contact 1 time on face book, he said the woman he had her with is someone he too is on and off with (more on than off) i congradualted him etc we had a very grown up and innocent conversation. so my issue is this i feel incomplete i feel like i never told him what he really meant to me. everyday i look at his page and i tear up thinking about the one who got away.
would you tell him or just leave it be?
for the ones who said yes i should tell him.. can you help me write up something to say? i will send it to his face book, and update on what he says....
this is what i wrote