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Husband just shows up at our Daughters (5) School?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

He cheated and left me and my daughter. Ever since he has been a monster. Tried to leave me with nothing unenrolled our daughter from preschool without telling me. Turned off utilities. Moved in with his family with no responsibilities. He's pissed he has to pay me spousal support.child Support. $2400 a month. Anyway, he had us kicked out of our rental, tried to take my car away from me.

Now he wants a paternity test and cut off temp-visitation with our daughter till the custody hearing. He has lost his mind.  He's dealing with some woman with 4 kids, and helping her out with money, spends time with her kids babysitting and hanging out. come to find out.

I would never have thought he would have put his daughter through this nastiness. I don't want his loser ass, but I think he should treat his kid better.

So, I find out the other day he has shown up twice at my daughters school with no warning. Had lunch with her and sat with her in class. Bringing her gifts?? He has visitation but won't use it, I just don't understand his carzy behavior, and yes our daughter is his. I have never given his a reason to think she is not. Never cheated.

 

wtf???

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:06 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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Wrong. Unless there is an order that says otherwise he has equal rights to her teachers/education etc. he just can't TAKE her from school, that's all.


Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

You can have the school turn him away. Since you have custody they will not allow him to do that

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:28 PM
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I would be terrified that he is trying to take your daughter.  Show up at school so school knows him, daughter is ok with it and then one day - he takes her.  He is trying to hurt you and what would hurt you more than taking her?    Or second thought would be that he is planning on fighting you for custody.  Showing the school what a great daddy he is, blah, blah, gets in with the judge and boom- he's custodial parent and your paying CS. The guy is scum, don't take what he is doing lightly.  If he has no legal ties to your school while he is suing for paternity then tell the school he can't be there. 

LilliesValley
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:30 PM
Wow. Bi polar or something? That's crazy. If you ever get sole custody make sure the school knows.
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GoddessNDaRuff
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:30 PM
Guess it depends because my dad was not allowed to take us out of school unless my mom allowed it. There was one period of time he was not allowed to do so and that wasn't in the order.

Quoting Anonymous:

Wrong. Unless there is an order that says otherwise he has equal rights to her teachers/education etc. he just can't TAKE her from school, that's all.




Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

You can have the school turn him away. Since you have custody they will not allow him to do that

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:32 PM

Yikes, sounds like the guy my sister is seeing. She has 3 kids and he hangs out, pays her bills, babysits her kids and doesn't see his own kid. I won't let him near my kids, he even looks like a creep.

That'd be funny if your ex was seeing my sister and I just happened to see your post...

Yes, my sister is an idiot. No, she doesn't hear me when I talk.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:36 PM
Right. That's what I said. He can not take her from school if it is not his visitation time. But he can go to school activities, talk to her teachers, etc.


Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Guess it depends because my dad was not allowed to take us out of school unless my mom allowed it. There was one period of time he was not allowed to do so and that wasn't in the order.



Quoting Anonymous:

Wrong. Unless there is an order that says otherwise he has equal rights to her teachers/education etc. he just can't TAKE her from school, that's all.






Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

You can have the school turn him away. Since you have custody they will not allow him to do that


Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:36 PM
I'll be honest here, he might have problems with hiself.. he seems self destructive from the little bit you just mentioned. .. he might be mad and not know how to react so he's trying to make your life miserable but still misses and loves his daughter.. have u tried having a serious adult conversation with him and asked him wth ?
GoddessNDaRuff
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:44 PM
That's the thing he wasn't even allowed to do that. He tried and they could not tell him our schedules (we were in middle school at the time) and escorted off campus. Boy did he call my mom and go off. But she stuck to her guns about it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Right. That's what I said. He can not take her from school if it is not his visitation time. But he can go to school activities, talk to her teachers, etc.




Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Guess it depends because my dad was not allowed to take us out of school unless my mom allowed it. There was one period of time he was not allowed to do so and that wasn't in the order.





Quoting Anonymous:

Wrong. Unless there is an order that says otherwise he has equal rights to her teachers/education etc. he just can't TAKE her from school, that's all.








Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

You can have the school turn him away. Since you have custody they will not allow him to do that


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NerdyMamaofOne
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:48 PM
That is so weird. I'm sorry mama, I hope your situation gets better soon.
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redhead-bedhead
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 6:49 PM

That's what I was thinking. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I would be terrified that he is trying to take your daughter.  Show up at school so school knows him, daughter is ok with it and then one day - he takes her.  He is trying to hurt you and what would hurt you more than taking her?    Or second thought would be that he is planning on fighting you for custody.  Showing the school what a great daddy he is, blah, blah, gets in with the judge and boom- he's custodial parent and your paying CS. The guy is scum, don't take what he is doing lightly.  If he has no legal ties to your school while he is suing for paternity then tell the school he can't be there. 


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