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This is going to be a long one, sorry in advance. My husband and I separated a few years back and he moved in with his friend Joe. Joe had a wife and two adorable little boys, before the separation they frequently came over for dinner and playdates. Red flags were raised when he would say "I'm going over to bunny's"-the wife. I'm like "your friends with Joe, you're going to Joes house. " okay so we seperate, he moves in with them, after a few months we start talking again and around 6 months I'd stay over night there or he'd spend the night at my house. Bunny was always super friendly and seemed happy we were working things out. I talked to this woman about personal things. Bunny gets pregnant and we all assume its her husbands baby, they start looking for a bigger house for the new baby and Ronnie arraigned for us to take over their old house. Once were all settle I realize I'm 3 months pregnant, I thought my periods were messed up from depo. Bunny had her baby a few months later and we all came to see her. It was a split image of my husband, Joe and bunny are mexican but the baby had blonde hair, blue eyes like my husband. I confronted him when we got home and he denied it, there wasn't a hint of him lying and said bunny was always cheating on Joe. I'm 6 months pregnant with his baby and let him convince me. I didn't want to believe it, didn't want to face it. Fast forward 5 years and I see on the news she was arrested on drug charges and the kids were all removed. We get in a nasty argument days later and he admits he was sleeping with her the whole time. I was devastated, absolutely devastated he could lie so convincingly for so long. I was mad he I had no choice but to face it, no more pretending it didnt happen. After days of crying and a lot if thinking I go into mommy mode worrying about this kid being in foster care and what kind of live he's had. I tell Ronnie we need to get custody of him, I couldn't look at Ronnie without seeing him with her but now there's this kids in trouble. About a week after bunnys arrest were getting ready to go into their county for dna tests when we find out Joe already has custody of them. He wanted to let it alone, the kid was safe and already knows Joe as his father. Once I knew the kid was safe, I was moved out before he got home for work. So its been almost a year and I see this kid on Joes Facebook and he is a split image of my son. I want to email Joe all Ronnies messages where Ronnie admit to sleeping with bunny and admitting the kid is probably his...but what good will it do? Joe loves this kid, this kid is happy with his dad and brothers. Should I let it alone or does Joe have a right to know whether he's raising another man's child? I'm thinking about the kid, all he knows is joe being his dad, do I leave it alone? What about when he's older and wonders why he looks nothing like his brothers? Or is it, I left Ronnie, its not my problem?
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by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:07 PM
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momof2girls89
by Platinum Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:26 PM
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I would leave it alone. Joe knows the kid isn't his I'm sure. And it would devastate the kid to find out his dad really isn't his dad.


*Holy typos Batman. Sorry lol. I fixed them.*

shannonmegan24
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:27 PM
Apparently they were both using and Joe left to get clean. Bunny took off with the kids and he couldn't find her until she popped up on the news. They took the kids because she had them in a freaking drug house. A lot changes in 5 years and I guess drugs got to her pretty bad.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why would they remove the kids from joe because bunny went to jail?

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tifbrown
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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I think everyone deserves to know. I don't believe in living a lie when the truth is right there. But, it could be that Joe already knows and accepts it. I mean it's not like he didn't notice the difference in appearance and question things. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:30 PM
Joe ditched his kids with a drug addict to "get clean" ??? They gave them back to him? How long we're they in foster care?

Quoting shannonmegan24:

Apparently they were both using and Joe left to get clean. Bunny took off with the kids and he couldn't find her until she popped up on the news. They took the kids because she had them in a freaking drug house. A lot changes in 5 years and I guess drugs got to her pretty bad.




Quoting Anonymous:

Why would they remove the kids from joe because bunny went to jail?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:30 PM

If your separated it's not your business who he sleeps with.

shannonmegan24
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:31 PM
I noticed the resemblance when the kid was born but didn't believe it until he finally admitted it. Maybe Joes in denial too, maybe he's forgotten it. I don't know, I haven't spoken to him sense seeing the baby. He was Ronnies friend, not mine.


Quoting tifbrown:

I think everyone deserves to know. I don't believe in living a lie when the truth is right there. But, it could be that Joe already knows and accepts it. I mean it's not like he didn't notice the difference in appearance and question things. 


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luckysevenwow
by Ruby Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:34 PM

It's none of your buisness nor is it your place. Joe most likely knows and is choosing to raise the child as his anyway. If your ex doesn't want to be in the childs life, then why say anything.


There is a small possibility Joe doesn't know, and just believes they have some dormant gene that shows up in this young man. What happens if Joe doesn't want to raise someone else's child? What becomes of the poor kid? For all you know, no one will want him. Not something I would mess with either way.

shannonmegan24
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:36 PM
About a week, I'm sure they did a home check and drug test before releasing them to his custody. He tried to go back for them soon after but she moved with no warning


Quoting Anonymous:

Joe ditched his kids with a drug addict to "get clean" ??? They gave them back to him? How long we're they in foster care?



Quoting shannonmegan24:

Apparently they were both using and Joe left to get clean. Bunny took off with the kids and he couldn't find her until she popped up on the news. They took the kids because she had them in a freaking drug house. A lot changes in 5 years and I guess drugs got to her pretty bad.






Quoting Anonymous:

Why would they remove the kids from joe because bunny went to jail?


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shannonmegan24
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:39 PM
I agree, any other circumstance I would let it go but it kinda comes my business when there's a baby involved.


Quoting Anonymous:

If your separated it's not your business who he sleeps with.


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afwifeandmommy3
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 12:42 PM
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Let it be . That little boy has it ruff enough he doesn't need his world flipped upside down
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