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What would you do if this was on your 15 year old son's computer history? update again

Anonymous
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QREEaVQJjVo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b9taaFEwZms

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxoHDhEhIJ0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sl6Zx4QIHHA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjlUA6dzGlY

http://www.youtube.com/user/SexGodBlueprint?feature=watch

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KvREdTDr5aI&list=UUvCEva1rzY9dbrNmI1o3CSA

They are all how to videos from youtube, mostly for fingering and oral. At first I thought he was just using it as porn but I checked them out and they were instructional, not porn at all. He is 15 and has been dating a girl for a few months now. I am a single mom and his dad died 2 years ago so I had to talk to him about it. I asked him if they were having sex he said no but he just wanted to learn how to "get her off". We talked about safe sex and the complications and responsibilities that can come from sex.

Is it normal that he is worried about these things at his age? I have raised 3 girls but he is my only boy so I have never been through this. My sister's DH who he is very close to, espcially since his dad died has offered to talk with him.

update

I called my sister's DH and asked him if he would talk to DS. He of course said yes but asked if I want him to encourage him to not do these things, do them safely  or how to do them. I told him to do what he would do for his own son. He said "safely it is" but he said he will also talk to him about his relationship with his girlfriend.

BIL took DS out last night to talk. BIL told me that DS told him that his girlfriend has started giving him hand jobs and he didn't know what to do for her and that's why he was looking online. BIL gave him condoms and told him to be careful. I am so glad I have my BIL to talk to him, I don't know that he would be that comfortable talking to me about that stuff.


Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 2, 2013 at 2:50 PM
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BeAmour
by Tonya on Mar. 2, 2013 at 2:53 PM
Nothing. He's a curious teen thinking about or has already, beginning to be intimate. Just have the talk, buy some condoms, etc...
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KawaiiLila
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 2:53 PM
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It's normal. I was worried about kissing properly at that age. But it can be stressful for any guy to think he won't know what he's doing. He just wants to be prepared.
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curlycupcake
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 2:55 PM
Oh god, I'd let the bil talk to him! I don't know what's normal for boys that age & I dread that day in my home. Good luck mama.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:00 PM
Wow he's going to make his girlfriend happy. He's actually taking time put to learn.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:01 PM
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I guess so, it's just weird to me to think my 15 year old is trying to learn how to get a girl off but I guess it's better then most teen boys, just worried about getting off themselves.



Quoting BeAmour:

Nothing. He's a curious teen thinking about or has already, beginning to be intimate. Just have the talk, buy some condoms, etc...



Kitschy
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:02 PM
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I would think I did a good job raising my boy. He actually give a damn about his partner. Good for him. Buy him some condoms.

bcoll
by Brandi on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:04 PM

 I would definitely open up the doorway for discussion with you or his uncle. It's normal curiousity and a desire not to appear foolish and uninfored though.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:05 PM

That's a good way to think about it, I just didn't think it would be happening this soon. My girls all lost their virginitys between 16 and 17 (yes they all told me when it happened)



Quoting Kitschy:

I would think I did a good job raising my boy. He actually give a damn about his partner. Good for him. Buy him some condoms.



LyTe684
by Ruby Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:06 PM
You did good. Keep that line of communication open.
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LizzieAnnesMom
by ☆Mrs.Winchester☆ on Mar. 2, 2013 at 3:06 PM
This is where my mind went lol

Quoting Kitschy:

I would think I did a good job raising my boy. He actually give a damn about his partner. Good for him. Buy him some condoms.

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