What would you do if this was on your 15 year old son's computer history? update again
They are all how to videos from youtube, mostly for fingering and oral. At first I thought he was just using it as porn but I checked them out and they were instructional, not porn at all. He is 15 and has been dating a girl for a few months now. I am a single mom and his dad died 2 years ago so I had to talk to him about it. I asked him if they were having sex he said no but he just wanted to learn how to "get her off". We talked about safe sex and the complications and responsibilities that can come from sex.
Is it normal that he is worried about these things at his age? I have raised 3 girls but he is my only boy so I have never been through this. My sister's DH who he is very close to, espcially since his dad died has offered to talk with him.
I called my sister's DH and asked him if he would talk to DS. He of course said yes but asked if I want him to encourage him to not do these things, do them safely or how to do them. I told him to do what he would do for his own son. He said "safely it is" but he said he will also talk to him about his relationship with his girlfriend.
BIL took DS out last night to talk. BIL told me that DS told him that his girlfriend has started giving him hand jobs and he didn't know what to do for her and that's why he was looking online. BIL gave him condoms and told him to be careful. I am so glad I have my BIL to talk to him, I don't know that he would be that comfortable talking to me about that stuff.