Who was wrong? Kinda Long But please help!! ***ETA***
My bfs income tax is being held and reviewed so he wont be getting anything anytime soon. We were depending on it to buy us two cars. Hes been asking for rides to and from work from his family and a coworker. Its been 2 months since our cars tranny went out. His family is tired of helping him out with rides. He pays gas to everyone that helps so its not like hes free loading. Anyways, His mom convinced him that we (Me and Him) can afford car payments so she took him to look for a new car. I am not working but i do receive money monthly from when my mom passed away (different story). Well we sat to talk about it and according to him its gonna be HIS car and HIS payments and I have no say in anything whatsoever. Keep in mind that we share a banking account and my money is his and vice Versa. I pay for the rent and utilities with my portion and groceries. Whatever else we need for the home or anything is usually bought when he gets paid. Never have we split anything up.
Well after he said all that about the new car I left at that since he thinks he knows everything. So he got paid friday and his pay check is pretty much gone so he told his mom that he can still look for a car because he can use "my money". I look at him and said "NO. You wanted the car for yourself and you said it was your business not mine and that you didnt need my help." So he left about an hour ago With what he has left from his check.
Now I know we need a car mainly him for his job but hes the one who said he didnt need my help. When we had our old car and he didnt have gas money i helped him. His mom NEVER helps him when he needs it. Its always my aunt whos there for us.
If he would have apologized and admitted he was wrong for saying that I would have been more than happy to help. But the fact that he wanted to feel like hes the only one paying bills and I dont help out pissed me off.
Was I wrong? I know the post probably sounds like it doesnt make sense. So if any questions feel free to ask.
Please no bashing. If it was a bitchy move on my part i will apologize and help.
Weve had a joint account since we moved in together. We have never had any money issues whatsoever. Until His mom decided to butt into our business. We had already decided to a used car and when we received the letter from the irs. Thats when his mom kept telling him to get a new a car and that it was best. He is still learning how to be a family and a bf. I am his first gf and this is his first child as well. Weve had issues in the past with him buying things he wanted but its not what he needed. He didnt undertstand the difference. But since then hes been great with it all. He stepped up as a bf and father and we talk about buying things we want before going out and just doing it. This is the first time hes ever done anything like this so I dont know how to take it. I know he wont run off with any money i have in the account but than again i only put in whats needed for rent and what i pay.