Edit-bil came over and told me totally different story...My husband just came to me and told me that he cheated on me.
I guess on one hand I should be glad that he was honest and admitted it rather than waiting to see of I'd found out...
But I don't know what to do.
I told him I needed some space...so he's down stairs with the kids and I'm sitting in the bedroom...
**sigh*** just venting my frustration I guess...
Edit/ I've actually been sitting here for almost two hours.
What he told me was that it happened, with a stranger, last night.
He came home an hour late after going out with his brother but i didn't think anything of it.
They said they were going to a bar down the street, and Samantha (bils fiancée) drove them home because they were both pretty drunk.
I also didn't think anything if him being drunk since he's only ever gone out to drink three times, includind last night.
I didn't ask anything. I just told him I needed some space and went upstairs. So here I'm sitting...trying to figure out what to do....
We've been married for three years....we've been together since I was 15...that's 9 years we've been together..we have a 4 year old and a 11 month old....
I want to talk to him...but at the same time I don't want to see him..
The kids will both be out soon so I think I'll try to talk to him then...
...hope that answers some questions...
Edit- we talked some after the kids went to bed.
He apologized, and I do believe that he really means it and that it really was just a mistake.
But, I don't feel like I'm the right state of mind to make a decision.
I didn't not ask for in depth details of what happened. I don't want to know every little detail. I feel like that will just make it even worse.
He said that he got drunk, that he just wasn't thinking. That he never meant for it to happen.
I told him that I would need time. He went to his brothers, and sil (bils wife) came over her, because she is my closest friend.
Edit/ I'm so confused.
This morning I asked DH how it happened. He said they went to a bar in a hotel where an old friend of theirs was meeting them. That there was this woman, and that he wasn't ahure how it happened but he ended up in her room
Around 4 bil came over. DH wasn't home. He asked to talk to me.
He said that nothing happened that night.
That DH and he met their old friend who was staying at the hotel.
That DH drink to much, so their friends girl friend helped him up to their room where DH vomited and passed out. He said he tried to tell DH this but he just said "don't make excuses for me". Im so confused. DH is home, I haven't told him what bil told me yet...