Here is my dilemma. DH and I have been married for 31 years. We get along great and all that marriage stuff. Except for sex. DH bitches about it DAILY. Yet every single night he never wants to do anything before we head up to bed. Most couples do stuff around the house. Play cards or cook or whatever. My DH lounges in his recliner watching tv for hours on end and dozing. If I watch tv I fall asleep like a baby. So I stay busy doing things but he will never join me in anything. I suggest the cards or a drive, anything but watching tv. He says no and watches tv til his brain turns mushy. But after he jerks awake he's like "oh wow....I see no sex again tonight". Thats some damn strange kind of foreplay ya know? Like I have a fuckin sex mood switch on me and should just hop right into the mood upon his mention of it. GOD it annoys me. (He is snoring loudly this very minute!) In an hour or so he'll snort himself awake and think it's sex time. I have been going through some medical crap and a lot of stress and he thinks so what? Like it's a bodily function. Well I keep thinking bodily function your old ass straight to bed! Guess my rant is over. And two horny middle aged people will strong will our stubborn selves into another sexless night! ARG!