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Was this punishment too harsh?

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My children broke the neighbors potted plants and I'm just so embarrassed! I'm making them write "I will play nicely with other people's things", and write a 2 sentence apology note.
This is complete torture to them and can barely make it to the 5th line... Ages are 5&6
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 2, 2013 at 11:23 PM
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AutymsMommy
by Platinum Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 11:52 PM

IMO lines aren't going to teach compassion. Having the children buy a replacement and include a little handwritten apology note (that is age appropriate; I wouldn't expect much from a newly writing 5 year old), fine.


Quoting TheMrs407:

While I agree an accident is an accident and just a misfortune, I think an apology note or picture is a good gesture. It teaches children compassion.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

Then yes, it was harsh.

I'm not in the habit of punishing for accidents. Accidents, by definition, are unintentional and we prefer to reserve punishment for intentional misbehaviours.

Further, using writing as a punishment isn't something I would advise or do myself. Writing isn't something I want my children to dislike and using it as punishment links it to something unpleasant.

But hey, to each their own.



Quoting Anonymous:

Yes it was





Quoting AutymsMommy:

Was it an accident?








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TheMrs407
by Emerald Member on Mar. 2, 2013 at 11:54 PM
I agree, which is why I included a picture as a possible substitution. It really depends on the child's academic ability. After my work in education with various children, O have become amazed at the compassion of (even) young children.



Quoting AutymsMommy:

IMO lines aren't going to teach compassion. Having the children buy a replacement and include a little handwritten apology note (that is age appropriate; I wouldn't expect much from a newly writing 5 year old), fine.





Quoting TheMrs407:

While I agree an accident is an accident and just a misfortune, I think an apology note or picture is a good gesture. It teaches children compassion.







Quoting AutymsMommy:

Then yes, it was harsh.

I'm not in the habit of punishing for accidents. Accidents, by definition, are unintentional and we prefer to reserve punishment for intentional misbehaviours.

Further, using writing as a punishment isn't something I would advise or do myself. Writing isn't something I want my children to dislike and using it as punishment links it to something unpleasant.

But hey, to each their own.






Quoting Anonymous:

Yes it was














Quoting AutymsMommy:

Was it an accident?

















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chane_L
by on Mar. 2, 2013 at 11:55 PM

um no! and they are big enough to wear latex gloves and pick up dog poo, rule at my house "do a crappy thing and you pick up crap"

accidents happen but someone still has to pay for the mistake. don't be harsh and explain that

momof2891
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 12:18 AM
I would get a new anyway and wait until Easter or something to give it to him/her. But that's just me. I was taught that if I broke something I would have to do chores and save my money to replace whatever it was that I broke if possible.


Quoting Anonymous:

I was going to but the neighbor doesn't want it




Quoting TXMOM1980:

And make them buy more potted plants.



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PISCIS29
by Gold Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 12:21 AM
That's fine not if its torture to them well you know that at least you're getting your point across.
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