Okay, so in April my ex and I have court to establish custody/child support. We haven't spoken in awhile, and when we do, we fight.. We can never discuss important things. (Trust me. I've tried. He always hangs up on me. And he has my # blocked, so he can only call me when he wants to talk!) Therefore, I don't really know his intentions. The child support specialists told me that we could go to mediation if he agreed with what I wanted and was put in the papers he was served with. I went with supervised visitations (for multipul reasons) and I KNOW he will not agree to that, so we will most likely have to go before a judge.
Now, he has a job; at a restaurant. I was let go from my job in November due to cut backs and haven't been able to fund another one. Thankfully, with the money I have saved and tax returns, my DS and I are living comfortably while I look for a new job. But I'm afraid this will be something that could be used against me in the custody hearing. Also, he got a bunch of money from his dad passing away, so he will be able to afford a real good lawyer. I can't. That scares me also.
Everyone keeps telling me that I have nothing to worry about. That his criminal record and actions towards our DS and I, that there will be no way he will get custody. But I guess I just fear the worst. I have been the ONLY parent in our DSs life since the start. His father has been in and out. I don't want them to take my baby away from me. ;(
DS loves his Dad and I know that my ex loves DS, but he is in no way, shape or form, able to realistically care for a child on his own. He wouldn't know what to do. I don't want to keep DS away from him.. But I don't trust him to be alone with DS either.
Now before you guys bash that I shouldn't of spread my legs to some loser.. He has changed in the past 6 months. He is not the person, I fell in love with. And honestly if you want to talk crap go ahead, I don't care. I just needed to vent and no matter what.. I know there is always shit talkers.