If your child looks/acts different, I'm gonna stare.

[Anonymous]

Moms of children that have a physical disability, birthmark, etc...or if you have one yourself...

Would you rather a person approach you and ask questions about it, or just stare and or whisper about it?

My dd has a large birthmark on her face, and she had laser treatment on it last week. The amount of stares and whispers we encounter is ridiculous. I think it is absolutely rude for someone to stare, or whisper...or rudely say "what happened to her face". Or the "aww, well she's still cute". I just find it unnerving.

[jbirdsladie27]

I'd rather people ask, staring is rude.

[Rosebud27aj]

Same here

Quoting jbirdsladie27:

I'd rather people ask, staring is rude.

[jbirdsladie27]

My son gets stared at all the time, his face is permanatly scarred for life from a wreck we were in. At 16 he'll ask what are you staring at? People get this embarrassing look on their faces and shuffle away.

[teresanteens]

 i think its rude if people stare,whisper or ask questions,no class.

[atyou]

Good for your boy! Seriously.

Quoting jbirdsladie27:

My son gets stared at all the time, his face is permanatly scarred for life from a wreck we were in. At 16 he'll ask what are you staring at? People get this embarrassing look on their faces and shuffle away.

[WesternNYmom]

I don't think either is acceptable. People should just learn to mind their own business. If I see someone in public who has a noticiable blemish or birthmark I ignore it, and go about my business.

[Lalalie]

My Uncle has a large birthmark covering most of his face, and I get really pissed when people stare.

They can ask, and it would be LESS rude but still rude. Why not just go on your way? What is on someone elses face doesn't concern you. Why keep bringing it up and throwing it in their face? It has obviously been brought to their attention. O.o Idiots.

[jbirdsladie27]

He seriously amazes me every single day. He just keeps smiling.

Quoting atyou:

Good for your boy! Seriously.

Quoting jbirdsladie27:

My son gets stared at all the time, his face is permanatly scarred for life from a wreck we were in. At 16 he'll ask what are you staring at? People get this embarrassing look on their faces and shuffle away.

[Anonymous]

I think either is annoying.

I think it sounds a tad paranoid too. Stop watching them watch you and it won't be so bad.

[gypsy_rose]

Ask. I have two disabled kids. I would rather be asked.