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If your child looks/acts different, I'm gonna stare.

Anonymous
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Moms of children that have a physical disability, birthmark, etc...or if you have one yourself...

Would you rather a person approach you and ask questions about it, or just stare and or whisper about it?

My dd has a large birthmark on her face, and she had laser treatment on it last week. The amount of stares and whispers we encounter is ridiculous. I think it is absolutely rude for someone to stare, or whisper...or rudely say "what happened to her face". Or the "aww, well she's still cute". I just find it unnerving.

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:07 AM
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jbirdsladie27
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:08 AM
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I'd rather people ask, staring is rude.
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Rosebud27aj
by Amanda on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:09 AM
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Same here

Quoting jbirdsladie27:

I'd rather people ask, staring is rude.



jbirdsladie27
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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My son gets stared at all the time, his face is permanatly scarred for life from a wreck we were in. At 16 he'll ask what are you staring at? People get this embarrassing look on their faces and shuffle away.
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teresanteens
by Bronze Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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 i think its rude if people stare,whisper or ask questions,no class.

atyou
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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Good for your boy! Seriously.

Quoting jbirdsladie27:

My son gets stared at all the time, his face is permanatly scarred for life from a wreck we were in. At 16 he'll ask what are you staring at? People get this embarrassing look on their faces and shuffle away.
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WesternNYmom
by Gold Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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I don't think either is acceptable. People should just learn to mind their own business. If I see someone in public who has a noticiable blemish or birthmark I ignore it, and go about my business.

Lalalie
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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My Uncle has a large birthmark covering most of his face, and I get really pissed when people stare.

They can ask, and it would be LESS rude but still rude. Why not just go on your way? What is on someone elses face doesn't concern you. Why keep bringing it up and throwing it in their face? It has obviously been brought to their attention. O.o Idiots.

jbirdsladie27
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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He seriously amazes me every single day. He just keeps smiling.

Quoting atyou:

Good for your boy! Seriously.



Quoting jbirdsladie27:

My son gets stared at all the time, his face is permanatly scarred for life from a wreck we were in. At 16 he'll ask what are you staring at? People get this embarrassing look on their faces and shuffle away.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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I think either is annoying.

I think it sounds a tad paranoid too. Stop watching them watch you and it won't be so bad.
gypsy_rose
by Kandy on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:16 AM
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Ask. I have two disabled kids. I would rather be asked.
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