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"Twilight" is Ruining my Sister's Marriage

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My sister is in her early 30s with a wonderful husband and two kids (4 and 1).  Her husband and my DH are best friends yet they live quite far from us.  For the past 2 years her husband has been communicating with us that he is really worried about her.  She is very non-communicative, she doesn't interact well with the kids, she won't leave the house and he feels she is lying to him about what she does during the day - she is a SAHM.

When then"Twilight" books first came out, my sis thought they were awesome.  She would post excerpts, biographies about the characters, and when the movies came out, clips and pictures all on her FB page.  I kind of shrugged them off.  Thought it was weird and a little obsessive, but nothing to be concerned about, sort of like a teen crush.  Sis eventually changed her FB, and deleted all her friends other than friends she had on a "Twilight" chat group.  She said that she did it because she only used FB to communicate with her "Twilight" friends.

I went out to visit her last month and was shocked.  She spends all day, every day, communicating with other women on this chat group.  They discuss, ad nausium, specific details about the movies and books.  She completely ignores her kids while she is chatting and when her DH calls or comes home, she lies about what she has been doing.  She doesn't see it as a problem but rather a normal release of stress.  But she fantasizes about the characters to the point that sometimes I am not sure if she realizes they are not real.  

Sorry so long, but I think she needs help but don't know how to convince her or her husband that something is seriously wrong.

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:06 PM

I'm thinking the only way is to first talk with her..and be honest up front about how her family is being affected by her obsession. Then..if she chooses to not change then the only thing is "nature" will take it's course. I mean usually people who are like this really have underlying issues.  I sometimes think that the only way people learn is the "school of hard knocks"...because it aint easy changing people.  just my 2 cents..

by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:12 PM
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It's not Twilights fault she is crazy...I know of Harry Potter fans that way too. Some people can't tell the dfference between fantasy and reality, they need to seek professional help.

by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:40 PM

Discussing things ad nauseum with other women online all day long...  hmmmmm...  sounds like me on cm.  lol 

Honestly tho, it does sound like she needs some professional help.  Hopefully she gets it.

by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:46 PM
But, I just talked to Jacob. He said he loved me not her.

Quoting harehelper:

Wait--What do you mean the Twilight characters aren't real????

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by Anonymous 34 on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:49 PM

I agree.  

Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't think Twilight is ruining your sisters marriage.  Your sister is ruining her marriage. 

That's like blaming McDonalds for obesity in this country. 

by Gold Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:57 PM
I understand using books to get a little away time but she's taking it too far. I would try looking up some info and maybe asking a therapist if they've run into anything like that and know of ways to help. GL
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by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:05 PM
You just said it yourself she likes to escape reality are you sure therres no abuse its not just physical and even if she says no
by Platinum Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:05 PM
She needs an intervention.
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by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:27 PM
She needs her Internet cut off. Completely.
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by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:04 PM

The next time you're there, pull the plug on the internet. It should be plugged in the garage, maybe by the dryer. You will see a long black cable going up to the wall. That's the internet feed. Just pull the plug and see how she reacts. Don't tell her ofcourse! See how she reacts with out the availability of the internet. If she runs to the cellphone, then perhaps you can disable that somehow or hide it!

Best of luck trying to convince her. Perhaps if she sees her own withdrawal, she might wake up.


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