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"Twilight" is Ruining my Sister's Marriage

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My sister is in her early 30s with a wonderful husband and two kids (4 and 1).  Her husband and my DH are best friends yet they live quite far from us.  For the past 2 years her husband has been communicating with us that he is really worried about her.  She is very non-communicative, she doesn't interact well with the kids, she won't leave the house and he feels she is lying to him about what she does during the day - she is a SAHM.

When then"Twilight" books first came out, my sis thought they were awesome.  She would post excerpts, biographies about the characters, and when the movies came out, clips and pictures all on her FB page.  I kind of shrugged them off.  Thought it was weird and a little obsessive, but nothing to be concerned about, sort of like a teen crush.  Sis eventually changed her FB, and deleted all her friends other than friends she had on a "Twilight" chat group.  She said that she did it because she only used FB to communicate with her "Twilight" friends.

I went out to visit her last month and was shocked.  She spends all day, every day, communicating with other women on this chat group.  They discuss, ad nausium, specific details about the movies and books.  She completely ignores her kids while she is chatting and when her DH calls or comes home, she lies about what she has been doing.  She doesn't see it as a problem but rather a normal release of stress.  But she fantasizes about the characters to the point that sometimes I am not sure if she realizes they are not real.  

Sorry so long, but I think she needs help but don't know how to convince her or her husband that something is seriously wrong.

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 3, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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denisepeace
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:04 PM

The next time you're there, pull the plug on the internet. It should be plugged in the garage, maybe by the dryer. You will see a long black cable going up to the wall. That's the internet feed. Just pull the plug and see how she reacts. Don't tell her ofcourse! See how she reacts with out the availability of the internet. If she runs to the cellphone, then perhaps you can disable that somehow or hide it!

Best of luck trying to convince her. Perhaps if she sees her own withdrawal, she might wake up.

 

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by Platinum Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:49 PM

 they need counceling

Anonymous
by Anonymous 35 on Mar. 4, 2013 at 12:10 AM

DH left this up for me to watch. "so I would GET HOW HE FEELS"

Leobaby2007
by on Mar. 4, 2013 at 12:49 AM

There is definitely something going on that she feels like she HAS to escape into this fantasy world. It sounds like any kind of addiction- drugs, porn, etc.

Honestly, I watched the last Twilight movie tonight and it was the WORST movie I have ever seen. You have be a serious "Twi-hard" to not get disgusted with the whole idea of Twilight after that piece of shit.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 36 on Mar. 4, 2013 at 2:50 AM

cover her DH in glitter and give him fangs and tell him to be emo and self hateing with a trace of abuse she will love it

CrystalPystol
by on Mar. 4, 2013 at 5:54 AM

Wow, that is crazy...

Zanny
by Silver Member on Mar. 4, 2013 at 6:00 AM

I know people like this on Facebook ... But their obsession is Survivor...


Anonymous
by Anonymous 37 on Mar. 4, 2013 at 6:13 AM
Actually it's not really uncharted territory, look into Online Addiction.
It more than likely has nothing to do with the actual Twilight movie or characters.
She's probably using it as an escape from something that's lacking in her life. Example, she's a sahm so could be communication with others, lack of social experience, lack of hobby.
I went through something similar in 2003 during a rough time with my dh.I became addicted to yahoo chat. I'd literally take nodoze pills & energy pills to keep.me awake all night so I could chat, I kept my children in daycare even though I wasn't working so I could chat. I never left thru house unless it was very important. Then even when I did I was constantly checking my phone & chatting. I had cell bills coming in at $400-$500 dollars for leaving my yahoo running on my phone, in case I received an instant message .
Thankfully my mom caught on & I got therapy. and the problem wasn't yahoo, It was me.
Stop trying to be thoughtful & just tell her dh, or sit by & watch her get destroy her life.

Quoting Anonymous:


I am afraid it is going to reach that point.  Right now, DH and I are trying to figure out how best to communicate with her husband that this is a serious issue.  She is very good at hiding her obsession.  She didn't hide it in front of me because she felt safe and she honestly doesn't think that she has a problem.  If it were alcohol, gambling, or drugs, we would have better resources to deal with it but this kind of "addiction" is a little bit of uncharted territory.


Quoting Anonymous:

yeah she needs to be admitted to the hospital at least so she can be evaluated. easier said than done especially if her and her husband are not willing to fully accept there is a problem and make some tough decisions.I'm sorry op i think it will reach a certain breaking point so to speak and her husband will end up having to call for assistance in taking her to the hospital to be evaluated by cpep( basically a mental health councilor)




harehelper
by on Mar. 4, 2013 at 7:29 PM

LIAR!! He loves ME!!


He also likes doing it doggy style. :))

Quoting cherib82:

But, I just talked to Jacob. He said he loved me not her.

Quoting harehelper:

Wait--What do you mean the Twilight characters aren't real????


cherib82
by on Mar. 4, 2013 at 11:35 PM
Please I was with him and Paul just last night

Quoting harehelper:

LIAR!! He loves ME!!


He also likes doing it doggy style. :))

Quoting cherib82:

But, I just talked to Jacob. He said he loved me not her.



Quoting harehelper:

Wait--What do you mean the Twilight characters aren't real????


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