church is "forcing" me to an abortion

[Anonymous]

My fiance and I are getting married in August at his parents church. His family is paying for 50% of the wedding and my family is paying for 50%. We've been planning for over a year and lots of money and deposits are already paid.

Now we found out (on Friday) that I am pregnant. We were not trying, but were obviously too casual about preventing. The church has a policy that you cannot get married there if you are pregnant or have a kid.

We are both young (22 and 23) and don't really feel ready for a child, but we also sort-of want to keep the baby, but his family would pull all their support and the church would not let us get married there, so we have an appointment next week for an abortion (my 2nd...I had one from a high school relationship).

It just seems strange to me that as we listed the pro's and cons of the situation we were evenly split on keeping it or abortion and the fact that the church won't let us get married was the tipping point.

We can't get married if we have a kid or are pregnant but if we have an abortion then we can get married.

[Anonymous]

why would you tell anyone so soon, if you already knew the churches rule you should keep it to your selves untill after. you already wasted  lots of time and money  and if you think getting an abortion is best so you can get married at that church you will see the eror in your ways in the long run. Abortions islike a nightmare once it happens to think anout it the rest of your life like you ripped the helpless child out your self with you bare hands and your fiance held