Well, she told me last week that he's abusing her. Calling her names, pushing her around, etc. She ended it with him, and I offered her all sorts of help (money, a place to stay, support).
This week, they're back together. She's moving in with him. She is never without him and got rid of her phone, and is using his, so I can't talk to her without him. I tried calling her today and he intercepted and answered, then stayed in the room while we talked (I could hear him).
I am terribly afraid for her. She is only 22, never been in an adult relationship, and is not really very "street smart". She's told me horrible stories about him pushing her into walls, stabbing himself in a jealous rage over her talking to someone else, calling her a "cunt" for just waking him up to go to work. He's a pain pill addict and is on probation for getting a DUI (while she was in the car - HER car).
She claims he did all this to her while he was "high", and now he's sober so it's better now. I can't get it through her head that it WON'T STOP just because he's sober.
Just a month ago she was telling me they wanted to TTC, because she feels sorry for him that he's not allowed to see his other kids! Dear god, I hope she doesn't get pregnant...
How do I help her?? I've tried everything I can think of - support, understanding, tough love, horror stories... She's impervious to it.
ETA - I am meeting with her this afternoon... Does anyone else have any ideas or stories I could share with her that might wake her up?