I'm trying to stop myself from saying things like "you know what the worst time in my life was? It was when my husband was killed in a car accident. You told me I probably shouldn't come to your house if I needed anything because you had to work early in the morning and it would be inconvenient to have a toddler running around." Or "I know how bad it sucks to be without a car. Remember when mine broke down and you told me you couldn't pick me up from work even though you drove right by my office because I was a grown up and should have planned better?" Or still yet "I hate that you're behind on your bills. I bet it would be nice to have the money grandma left me for college that you took out of my bank account when I was 17 so that you could put in a pool."
This is not stuff I dwell on normally, but when she is asking me to deplete my savings for her, I can't help but get annoyed. I'll be the bigger person and not snap on her, but I'm not going to pretend I'm big enough to give her that much money.