Anyway, year before last we got custody of her because she got expelled from regular school for drugs, and expelled from alternate high school for having sex... At school. Then she got kicked out of an all girls boarding school for cutting with her roommate, she now has scars all on in underside of her arm.
Anyway... After all that happened she gave us all this BS about get mom neglecting her and allowing her cousin to molest her. How her mom would leave her at home for days, locked in with out a phone or a way to get out if the house. She made serious accusations.
My DH and I had to believe her. As parents, we are expected to trust now, as questions later.
So, we get custody of her, during the time we had temporary custody after she ran away from her mom, she was perfect. I couldn't have asked for a better teenager. I kid you not though, the week after we got full custody, she got suspended from school for brining spice to school. Over the next three months, she had brought 13...13!!!!! Different boys over to the house. There were rumors about her being a ho all over school. Two boys got in a fight on our front lawn.
I begged her to get on birth control. I wanted her to get Depo or an IUD... Something that took responsibility away. She refused and got the pill. I KNEW that she wouldn't freaking take it correctly.
She is in absolutely no shape to be anyone's mother. We've been discussing her options. DH and I are both prolife and told her that if she wants an abortion she'll have to get the money elsewhere. We told her that we would support adoption privately, or we could do an open adoption and dh and I would adopt the baby.
I will not help her raise the baby though. I won't do the hard stuff in the beginning and allow her to come sweeping in a few years from now and demand that she be the baby's mom. My mom had that happen with my adopted brother and it was a horrible experience.