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What do you consider to be a healthy sex life?

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How many times a week or month would you consider to be a healthy sex life with you SO?
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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DylansMommyXo
by Daggy on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:24 PM
For us it's usually 4-5x a week, sometimes more. IMO, it's whatever works for the couple and their lifestyle.
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im_not_trollin
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:59 PM

 4 or 5 times a week.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 41 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:13 PM

I could never be with someone who watches porn at all. But to be a porn addict would definitely not work. I dated a guy 5 years ago who was (maybe still is) a porn addict. It was awful. I was sexually abused as a child where porn was involved so porn is never allowed in my home or in my relationship in any way, ever. You're definitely more tolerant and a lot stronger than I am.


Quoting Anonymous:

I think he has a porn addiction. He says he doesn't know why he watches it, that it really doesn't do anything for him and that he never intends to watch it. But, every time he goes to the bathroom he takes his phone with him...and he's usually in there for 15-20 minutes and if I check our phone records, he's using 10-15 MB of data each time. I know he's watching porn more than just in the morning, but he refuses to get counseling. The only thing he's offered is an angry demand that I just take his phone and throw it away since he can't trust himself with it. I told him that I'm not his mother and he needs to take some responsibility for his actions. I really have no clue how to help him and I'm tired of feeling like I'm not good enough because I don't look like the 'barely legal' lesbians or the overly-endowed young-looking chicks in his fucking hentai. I get that guys crave variety, but so do women....and I know he'd get pissed if I was looking at porn or fantasizing about other men.

Quoting Anonymous:

He sounds like he has a sex addiction. You may want to look into getthing him some help.


Quoting Anonymous:

You're not alone. I'm in the same situation. MIne gets up at 4 to watch porn before work every morning and tells me there's nothing wrong with our sex life. I only get laid 2-3 times a month...and only if he notices I'm getting depressed. I even offer to give him a 'nothing needed in return bj' and get shot down. Guess he must really love the way his freaking hand feels.

Quoting Anonymous:

DuH and I have been debating this. I say once a week isn't healthy when were in our 30's and he looks at porn to satisfy himself otherwise. Especially when I ready, willing and able.







Maddies_Mommy10
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:15 PM

At least once a day. Sometimes twice. I usually try to throw a quickie in in the morning

shudderette
by Silver Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:25 PM

We have sex at least once a day. Sometimes we'll skip a day if we're busy or sick. It really helps us feel close to each other. But I would still consider it "healthy" if we scaled back to 2-3 times a week. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:28 PM

I won't lie, it's hard as hell to do. I was abused when I was little and I have major self-esteem issues and his porn addiction definitely doesn't help them any. I have seriously considered leaving him over it, but he's a great father and, except for the sex, our marriage is wonderful. I love him and he loves me and we're best friends. I think if he weren't in the Navy and a divorce wouldn't mean moving back home and taking the kids 3,000 miles away from him that we would divorce. As it stands now, we're married, but it's really like living with a best friend I guess. And, I certainly don't feel strong at all...I feel like I'm letting him get away with something. Even though I understand how difficult an addiction can be, I feel like he's weak and just needs to exercise some self-control. I've lost a lot of respect for him since he seems to be unable to put my feelings ahead of his desire to watch porn.

Quoting Anonymous:

I could never be with someone who watches porn at all. But to be a porn addict would definitely not work. I dated a guy 5 years ago who was (maybe still is) a porn addict. It was awful. I was sexually abused as a child where porn was involved so porn is never allowed in my home or in my relationship in any way, ever. You're definitely more tolerant and a lot stronger than I am.


Quoting Anonymous:

I think he has a porn addiction. He says he doesn't know why he watches it, that it really doesn't do anything for him and that he never intends to watch it. But, every time he goes to the bathroom he takes his phone with him...and he's usually in there for 15-20 minutes and if I check our phone records, he's using 10-15 MB of data each time. I know he's watching porn more than just in the morning, but he refuses to get counseling. The only thing he's offered is an angry demand that I just take his phone and throw it away since he can't trust himself with it. I told him that I'm not his mother and he needs to take some responsibility for his actions. I really have no clue how to help him and I'm tired of feeling like I'm not good enough because I don't look like the 'barely legal' lesbians or the overly-endowed young-looking chicks in his fucking hentai. I get that guys crave variety, but so do women....and I know he'd get pissed if I was looking at porn or fantasizing about other men.

Quoting Anonymous:

He sounds like he has a sex addiction. You may want to look into getthing him some help.


Quoting Anonymous:

You're not alone. I'm in the same situation. MIne gets up at 4 to watch porn before work every morning and tells me there's nothing wrong with our sex life. I only get laid 2-3 times a month...and only if he notices I'm getting depressed. I even offer to give him a 'nothing needed in return bj' and get shot down. Guess he must really love the way his freaking hand feels.

Quoting Anonymous:

DuH and I have been debating this. I say once a week isn't healthy when were in our 30's and he looks at porn to satisfy himself otherwise. Especially when I ready, willing and able.








RoseFlame
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:36 PM

I have been at this for almost 4 yrs and have spent so many hours doing research I know just about all of the stuff drs tell you and unless there is something wrong with sperm once a day is fine, but as I said we now only do every other day have been for about 2 yrs. Also before and after O you can have sex cause sperm only lives about 2 days before it starts going down hill.

Quoting Anonymous:

We are trying to conceive as well, and to pass on some info to you to help that we got from our fertility doctor, having sex every day can actually make it harder. She suggested tracking your period, and having sex several times around your ovulation time, but not all the other days. she said that men do need time to rebuild their little soldiers. lol, the way she explained it was when his body creates sperm, the time they spend inside his testicles, is like boot camp. if they are only getting a day in boot camp, they might not make it to their goal. 

Quoting RoseFlame:

It used to be about 5 times a day on average then we started trying to conceive and went to once a day sometimes twice, now still no baby so every day to every other day, and with the extra weight in the last year its about every other day now. The more weight I have gained the less sex drive I have I think its to do with being self conscious.



Roxyysf
by Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:47 PM

Feels like Never!!

Since i got preg. he wont touch me. :(

 Id have it every night if it was up to me.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 49 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 5:05 PM

We like it everyday. ;D

Anonymous
by Anonymous 50 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 5:30 PM
We have sex once, twice a week tops. There are some weeks when we don't have sex at all.

He is a night owl and I like to get up early. I am usually out cold by the time he comes back to the room. But I have no problems waking him in the morning to go.

It works for us, though.
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