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What do you consider to be a healthy sex life?

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How many times a week or month would you consider to be a healthy sex life with you SO?
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 9:30 PM

I guess whatever works for you & your partner. Also men & women go through different stages in their relationship & as you age. I used to have sex with my hubby a few times a week but since having my last baby we don't have sex as often now. We are both getting older too so I can't compare it to what it was like in our 20's. We are both in our mid 30's. Now it's only a few times a month. I would like it more but he's happy the way it is. I would be really upset if I found out he was watching porn or somthing because he knows I want to have sex more. I don't think that is the case though.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 9:31 PM
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Well I hate sex and never want to do it and my DH loves sex and would love it if we did it every day multiple times a day. So there is no healthy sex life for us. No matter what we do, one of us is always going to be unhappy.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 6, 2013 at 9:36 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

I guess whatever works for you & your partner. Also men & women go through different stages in their relationship & as you age. I used to have sex with my hubby a few times a week but since having my last baby we don't have sex as often now. We are both getting older too so I can't compare it to what it was like in our 20's. We are both in our mid 30's. Now it's only a few times a month. I would like it more but he's happy the way it is. I would be really upset if I found out he was watching porn or somthing because he knows I want to have sex more. I don't think that is the case though.




That's the thing that gets me. He knows I want it more. Offer hand jobs and blow jobs, which he will mostly turn down. Then he'll go and masturbate to porn later?!?! Like the offer has an expiration date or something.

I've tried talking with him about it, he gets defensive. I think he's really just lazy when it comes to sex. Or he has some other issue going on.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 9:44 PM

 


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

I guess whatever works for you & your partner. Also men & women go through different stages in their relationship & as you age. I used to have sex with my hubby a few times a week but since having my last baby we don't have sex as often now. We are both getting older too so I can't compare it to what it was like in our 20's. We are both in our mid 30's. Now it's only a few times a month. I would like it more but he's happy the way it is. I would be really upset if I found out he was watching porn or somthing because he knows I want to have sex more. I don't think that is the case though.




That's the thing that gets me. He knows I want it more. Offer hand jobs and blow jobs, which he will mostly turn down. Then he'll go and masturbate to porn later?!?! Like the offer has an expiration date or something.

I've tried talking with him about it, he gets defensive. I think he's really just lazy when it comes to sex. Or he has some other issue going on.

That would really bother me too. I keep trying to talk to my hubby about it & he dosn't get defensive he just dosn't have any answers for me. He just keeps saying that men go through changes too. Meaning that men have periods in life where they don't want sex. I miss the closeness & being intimate.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 6, 2013 at 9:56 PM
Quoting Anonymous:




I miss our closeness too. If we were intimate in other ways regularly or if he would put in the effort to get me off or at least close more than once or twice a year. Maybe I wouldn't be bitching on here
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM
That's an unheathy sex life.

Quoting Anonymous:

DuH and I have been debating this. I say once a week isn't healthy when were in our 30's and he looks at porn to satisfy himself otherwise. Especially when I ready, willing and able.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM
You gotta relax, you sound just like me when I was pregnant with my first and frankly up until about a year ago. Lay your foundations wisely because years later they well still be there, good or bad.


Quoting Anonymous:

We're in our mid-twenties and sadly have sex every few weeks. I'm pregnant for one and for two he wants me to make the move and I'd rather sleep and when he makes the move its in a total creepy grope me way.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:01 PM

 


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:




I miss our closeness too. If we were intimate in other ways regularly or if he would put in the effort to get me off or at least close more than once or twice a year. Maybe I wouldn't be bitching on here

I had to have a long talk with my dh about this recently. I told him if he wasnt gonna try harder to satisfy my needs that we were gonna grow apart & don't be suprised if I want a divorce or I end up cheating. I hate to threaten him but I told him I missed being desired. I told him I was gonna buy a vibrator. lol. Things have gotten alittle better. I think it's a work in progress.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:08 PM
I wish a few times a week :( lucky if we do every two weeks :(
Mommie2Kailen
by Bronze Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:08 PM

There's no magic number for us, we get it on as we can... And it's healthy but to put a number on it we have it around 10-12 days out of the month..Were happy, happy, happy :)

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