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I can't do it without a nanny

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I have a very active 19 m old and I'm a single working mom.i am used to taking him to daycare from 7.45 to 3.30, mond to frid and a nanny comes home on tue and Thursday from 4 to 8 and sund from 2 to 6 m.

Last sund she told me that she could not come on tues anymore and I thought I was able to hande it all without her help.

i can't .

i m sick this week so it may not be the best time to evaluate this but I think I need help 3 times a week if I want a clean home, homemade meals, quality time, time at home to work and not get too stressed.

how do women do it without help?

EDIT

since people don't read responses, I am going to clarify certain things:

1) I should have used the word "maid" or helper instead of nanny. She cleans, does laundry, folds clothes, crosses the street to pick up a few groceries, organizes toys, recharges batteries, change batteries and yes, she would not  ignore my child if he wants to play but she is always around while I am home. she may change a diaper here and there or get sippy cups ready or clean high chair or help feeding him fruit after we ate dinner but she is not a "nanny" working alone

2) I took my son's first 14 months off to be with him.

3) I don't need to hear about moms that are going to school as well as unlike them, I planned on the baby after I had earned my MA and I was almost doone with my PhD

4)I don't judge SAHMs, you don't judge working moms

5) I leave the office to be home with my son but I still have to do work from home.

6) like most if you, I did have to suck it up and be a mom (whatever it means for everyone).for me, it means that I dont get my hair done twice a week, I dont get manicures and pedicures, I dont get a massage, I dont work out as much as I jused to, I dont travel as much as i used to, i dont have a different $100 bottle of perfume every month, I dont buy expensive make up, I don't hang out wiuth the same friends and etc etc...it is all about my son and i am happy but go and judge your own self

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:44 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 6:48 PM


You just made me laugh! I didn't know that the requirement to be a mom was to clean.im the one who stays up and puts him back in bed, I am the one to teaches him to wash his body to play and to be nice to otrs and so many other things. I am sorry but if you can afford having a maid, there is no way you are less than a Mother

Quoting Snivs:

2) I took my son's first 14 months off to be with him.

That's good, since now he is all grown up *eyeroll* 

You are ridiculous and I wonder why you even 'decided' to be a 'mother'



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 6:49 PM


Thanks

Quoting kgsharber:

 Oh Lord. If you are an educated woman who planned this pregnancy, the women in this forum will never understand you.

That's all I will say.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 6:51 PM


I guess he wasn't part of the plan

Quoting AmaliaD:

when my son was younger (birth through kindergarten)  my dh worked second shift so that our child wouldnt attend daycare.    i would watch my son from the time i got off work 4 pm until bedtime,  by myself,   each and everyday.    on the weekends we would both be home.    but he has always been not helpful when cleaning needed done,   but he could occupy our child while i got stuff done.     op - if you planned the child - where is the guy you planned the child with to help you?!?



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 6:54 PM
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Because of two reasons. 

1. I don't care

2. I'm not writing an academic paper or a formal email

May be there is a third reason . Most people here are uneducated anyway

Quoting Kerannmer:

Lol. Oh, woe is me.

What I don't understand...you have an MA and a PhD in the works, but you abbreviate the days of the week like this: sund, mond, frid?



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 6:57 PM


My PhD is in French (Literature and Cinema) and all paper sand thesis were written in French. English is my second language.

what are your first and second languages?

i also speak italian, Portuguese and Spanish and I am learning Arabic.

care to share more about you bitch?

Quoting Anonymous:

lol you have a  phd and still use the term "judge your own self" ? lol



Kerannmer
by Gold Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:01 PM

I've never known anyone who, in real life, is well-versed in many cultures and still resorts to using "bitch" as some kind of insult. To me, that only shows a total lack of worldliness.


Quoting Anonymous:

 

My PhD is in French (Literature and Cinema) and all paper sand thesis were written in French. English is my second language.

what are your first and second languages?

i also speak italian, Portuguese and Spanish and I am learning Arabic.

care to share more about you bitch?

Quoting Anonymous:

lol you have a  phd and still use the term "judge your own self" ? lol

 

 


 

jkampbyll
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:06 PM

oh  gawd i just about fell out of the damn chair with laughter seeing this lmao!


Quoting Anonymous:

Haha

Quoting Anonymous:




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:09 PM


Only when cafe mom ladies get on someone s nerves lol


Quoting Kerannmer:

I've never known anyone who, in real life, is well-versed in many cultures and still resorts to using "bitch" as some kind of insult. To me, that only shows a total lack of worldliness.


Quoting Anonymous:


My PhD is in French (Literature and Cinema) and all paper sand thesis were written in French. English is my second language.

what are your first and second languages?

i also speak italian, Portuguese and Spanish and I am learning Arabic.

care to share more about you bitch?

Quoting Anonymous:

lol you have a  phd and still use the term "judge your own self" ? lol







BEXi
by BEXi on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:10 PM

You do it 5 minutes at a time. It's far from impossible.

BEXi
by BEXi on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:10 PM

"3) I don't need to hear about moms that are going to school as well as unlike them, I planned on the baby after I had earned my MA and I was almost doone with my PhD"


LOL Kind of missing the whole point there, arent you? OH wow.

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