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I'm thinking about stopping regular check-ups for my son.

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I have never been a big fan of doctors. I have always felt that they interfere with the natural human body in ways that aren't necessary or healthy. I myself don't go to the doctor unless I'm very sick. Maybe once a year I really need antibiotics or something, but I don't go in unless I have to. Its annoying when I do see a doctor becuase they always push me to make an appointment to have some exam done. I have taken my son to all of his well child visits so far and he has had all his immunizations ( although I think they gave him way to many), but now that he is almost 5 I am leaning toward stopping the constant check-ups when nothing is wrong. Thoughts?

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 7, 2013 at 1:48 AM
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mama3p
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:25 PM

Constant checkups? where I live it's only once a year and thats only until their a certain age...8 I think and then after that it's like once every 2 years....no big... my kids hardly get sick so they pretty much only see a doc once or twice a year...

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:27 PM

I got a pap smear 2 years ago when I had this impanon put in. Its good for another year so when I go back in a year to get a new one they will do another one then. They require a current exam to be on file before you can get birth control.


Quoting mylifemylove864:

Please tell me you ateast get yearly pap smears?

And if your sons doctor is pushing things you don't like, get a new Dr. All they have ever done at well child visits are basic exams for my kids.



mylifemylove864
by Ruby Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:28 PM
It seems like a lot of parents take their kids to the doctor every time they get the sniffles. And some doctors will prescribe antibiotics or something like a steriod or cough medicine with codeine just so the parent shuts up. Its ridiculous.

We don't go unless they have had a fever for more than 3-5 days or something specific comes up that probably needs antibiotics like I hear wheezing in dd7s lungs along with a high fever... She gets pneumonia easily.

We have avoided antibiotic use for ear infections over the last year by using breastmilk instead.


Quoting Anonymous:

She is 9. yeah we drink bottled water. i guess sometimes we get the fluoride because i do cook with the tap water. 

A lot of kids are given steroids these days when they have respiratory illness. its given out as often as antibiotics. and its way too much imo. 

many parents dont know much medical information. but i do agree with her that antibiotics and steroids arent always nessisary. 

but you are right. and we dont know everything, for all we know her child needs all the treatments  he has been getting. 

Quoting KennyPooPoo22:

Thats great! I cant help what they put in drinking water, i just know thats why they will prescribe it. But, it is probably an issue for the poster because drs know that it can be harmful, they wouldn't hand it out for no reason. I have to jump through hoops to get mine refilled every month. I don't think the poster knows much medically speaking because the kid obviously has some issues she isn't seeing if he was given a steroid and is only 5 y/o. 


What does your girl drink (assuming bottled water?) and how old is she BTW? I didn't have a cavity until I was 18 :/


Quoting Anonymous:

Its in the drinking water. Therefore it is ingested. It doesn't take much to start its problems. 

my DD has never had cavities, and she has never had fluoride. 

Quoting KennyPooPoo22:

Eat as in swallow. If it is in toothpaste form the kid wouldnt be swallowing it, that is IF she is watching him brush his teeth which I seriously doubt she is as most parents don't. I never had a cavity until we moved out to the sticks and had well water and haven't had one since I started the floride toothpaste. That's why it is prescribed.



Quoting Anonymous:

You dont have to EAT it for it to hurt you. 

Quoting KennyPooPoo22:

I never said it was fantastic to eat. She asked why it would be prescribed, I answered to why. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Actually fluoride is HORRIBLE for you. Yes it protects your teeth. Great. But it destroys the rest of your body. 

It makes you sick. And it can cause sterilization. 

But given that it is still up in the air as far as facts go, i suppose we will just have to agree to disagree. 

Quoting KennyPooPoo22:

It strengthens your teeth and helps prevent cavities. It isn't found in children's toothpaste because they tend to swallow it. If the child live in an area where there is "city" or "tap" water flouride is added, but well water and bottled water do not contain it. I use Rx fluoride toothpaste myself.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have never heard of this at all. Why would fluoride need to be given? 

Quoting Anonymous:


Of course they prescribed fluoride if your water source does not have fluoride, as in a well.  My kids have been prescribed fluoride forever.  But we chose not to take it.  If you take your children to the dentist, they will sometimes offer a fluoride prescription.  Would you then stop taking them to the dentist?  Steroids are NOT routinely prescribed for a well child.


Quoting Anonymous:


Flouride.


Quoting Anonymous:

Doctors do not prescribe medication for children that are well. So if you took your supposedly 'well' child to the doctor and he was prescribed medication, he was not, in fact, healthy. He was sick. Denying the child medical care is absolutely stupid. 

Quoting Anonymous:


I don't mind if the doc just does an exam. But every time I go in there they want to do some other shot or medication. Why can't they just leave his body be?


Quoting Anonymous:

I understand your view and don't necessarily disagree with it.  But, if your son goes to school or participates in any kind of sport, camp, club events, they will need to have that check up.  Even if you say that he won't, if the need arrises at a later date, it is much more difficult to get a child in for a check up when they have not been a consistent patient.  To me, well child check up don't hurt.  Basically a check of sight, hearing, heart, height and weight.  If a doctor finds something concerning, you have the ability to chose to have follow up treatment or not.





























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KrissyKC
by Platinum Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:28 PM

I think they ask for them for school, right?

Another idea is to find a doctor that shares a more what is the word... holistic?  approach.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:29 PM
I only took my first to 2 appointments. I have 4 kids, no doctor visits since then.
mylifemylove864
by Ruby Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:29 PM
I only asked because I have a friend from high school who died from cervical cancer last year. She was only 30 years old. Once she was diagnosed she had a month left.

Pap smears are very important.


Quoting Anonymous:

I got a pap smear 2 years ago when I had this impanon put in. Its good for another year so when I go back in a year to get a new one they will do another one then. They require a current exam to be on file before you can get birth control.



Quoting mylifemylove864:

Please tell me you ateast get yearly pap smears?



And if your sons doctor is pushing things you don't like, get a new Dr. All they have ever done at well child visits are basic exams for my kids.





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Stephd710
by Ruby Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:30 PM

A friend of mine works in the ER.  She said a family came in with a couple sick kids the other night.  They werent immunized and none of them had seen a dr for a checkup in quite some time.  The Dr called CPS and they came and took the kids THAT NIGHT.  They were clean and not abused, they were taken because they hadnt gotten checkups.  I dk the legality of it all, thats all she told me. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:30 PM


I assume they were for the cold. The doctor didn't have time to explain it to me because there were a ton of other kid's to see. I went in there for an exam because his preschool needed the form. He was coughing a bit and the doc gave him albuteral and flouride. He noticed we updated the address to a different place so he gave me flouride for his teeth.

Quoting Anonymous:

They gave him steroids for a cold? Docs don't hand out steroids for little things and wouldn't for a cold.
Why would you not question the meds that you do not feel he needs?
Why not find a doc that is more in line with what your beliefs are?
If you're not happy with his doc why not get a new doc instead of just not taking him.
I understand not wanting to fill him up with meds BUT well child checks are to check on development, growth, preventative medicine and looking for anything abnormal which could be a huge deal if anything came up.
When you take him for a sick visit, like with the cold, ask questions, express concern etc. with the meds/treatment they prescribe.
You CAN take him to the doc and be a part of his care, you have to be knowledgeable and, most importantly, YOU have to be your sons advocate.
Right now you're taking him in for treatment, getting meds, not giving your son the meds and you're confused/unsure on why he is even getting the meds, you're not discussing alternatives with your doc or questioning why he is prescribing the meds they are and you're unhappy with the doc?
Why not a happy medium where he gets medical care as he should and you just involve yourself more?

Quoting Anonymous:


I went in to the doctor because his preschool needed a current exam form on file. I don;t know why the old one expired seeing as its less than a year old but whatever. He had a cough when we went in and the doctor  prescribed him a some steroid and flouride. But he didn't take the meds because I didn't fill the prescription. And guess what? He got better! Without the drugs!


Quoting Anonymous:

In your replies you're not even sure what he was being prescribed the meds for. If you're going to be homeopathic then you need to have some knowledge at the very least to know when he needs medical care or when you can take care of things yourself!

Well child checks are important, well child checks with a dr that you trust and LISTEN to! It is during these checks that they make sure your kid is developing properly and that he doesn't have any underlying issues! If you miss these checks then you are gambling on him not having an issue that you would miss, an issue that can be a really bad thing to miss!

If you question meds then TALK to his doc. There is no reason that you can't balance medical care with less meds or different meds etc. don't deny him medical care because you haven't asked questions, because ou can't even say why he has taken the meds you say he was given! .











Kermitthemom23
by Silver Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:32 PM
Honestly after 5 not many shots needed. We skipped age 6. Did 7. Doc said we are gtg until 9. But she would like a yearly well check but not necessary



Quoting Anonymous:


I don't mind if the doc just does an exam. But every time I go in there they want to do some other shot or medication. Why can't they just leave his body be?



Quoting Anonymous:

I understand your view and don't necessarily disagree with it.  But, if your son goes to school or participates in any kind of sport, camp, club events, they will need to have that check up.  Even if you say that he won't, if the need arrises at a later date, it is much more difficult to get a child in for a check up when they have not been a consistent patient.  To me, well child check up don't hurt.  Basically a check of sight, hearing, heart, height and weight.  If a doctor finds something concerning, you have the ability to chose to have follow up treatment or not.







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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:33 PM
They told me for a healthy woman in my age group its due every 2 years. This birth control implant is good for 3 and they require the exam to be current or they won't prescribe birth control. I wouldn't use it but I don't want any more kids.
Quoting mylifemylove864:

I only asked because I have a friend from high school who died from cervical cancer last year. She was only 30 years old. Once she was diagnosed she had a month left.

Pap smears are very important.


Quoting Anonymous:

I got a pap smear 2 years ago when I had this impanon put in. Its good for another year so when I go back in a year to get a new one they will do another one then. They require a current exam to be on file before you can get birth control.



Quoting mylifemylove864:

Please tell me you ateast get yearly pap smears?



And if your sons doctor is pushing things you don't like, get a new Dr. All they have ever done at well child visits are basic exams for my kids.






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