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Another woman fixing DH lunch?

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This morning I woke up and checked my FB while DH was using the bathroom and brushing his teeth. Normal routine of us having 5 minutes to ourselves before kids wake up and go off to work and school. Scrolling through my news feed I see that DH's best friend's wife has taking it upon her self to send DH lunch to work with her DH. 

I fix DH lunch every night before bed, pack his lunch box full of goodies that I know he loves. Why the fuck is this woman trying to do my job??

DH didn't ask her to do this, and got aggravated at her as well. That's not her place. I had to resist the urge to go off on her because she is pregnant. 

Maybe she's trying to say thank you for us getting her DH a job and letting him stay with us completely rent free for 3 weeks, but that is not the way to say thank you in my book. The way it looks to everyone on FB is that I'm not taking care of my hubby or that I'm an awful cook. It made me very upset. Would you have been mad too? Or am I over reacting? I didn't say anything to her, but I really wanted to because she has never met my DH, she only talks to him occasionally on FB.

edit to add: If she was making lunch for the entire crew (there are 4-5 men on their crew each day) I would be totally cool with that. She isn't. She is making lunch for my DH solely, tagging him on fb in the post to show everyone single one of our family and friends that she is doing this. That's what bothers me about it, it bothered DH too and he said something to her DH. He's not comfortable with other women doing things for him that are my responsibilty. His exact words were "if I wanted her cooking I'd have asked for it."

by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:29 PM
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by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:42 PM
I think she is just trying to show she is grateful. I cooked for my bff's husband when she was out of State. I just took him leftovers. They were having a hard time after they lost their daughter. So I don't see anything wrong with it. It's not a regular thing so don't sweat it.
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:43 PM
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20 years ago I would have reacted like this. Not now.

by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:43 PM

Yeah I think your over reacting, it was meant as a good gesture, not an insult. I pack my dh's lunch everyday and sometimes I send extra for him to share with his friends lol. From my experience, there are a lot of dw's out there who don't pack their dh's lunch, they either pack it themselves or bum off our dh's! lol 

by Anonymous 8 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:43 PM

 She's being nice in probably the only what they can afford. Take her Thanks for what you did for her hubby as it's meant to be taken. If you have to worry about other people validating you because of what they perceive of you then you need to take a look at yourself. It's lunch not sex!

by Anonymous 9 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:43 PM

ummm psycho!

by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:43 PM
I cook lunch for dh every morning. He loves the fact that I love him enough to get up at 5 and cook for him.
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by Anonymous 10 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:43 PM

I think she is just trying to be nice, and your being way over dramatic. Why don't you shoot her a message on facebook telling her thank you for the gesture, but you already make your dh lunch,  but you appreciate the thought. It's just lunch, it isn't like she's trying to sleep with him Geeze.

by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:44 PM
I wish someone else would make my husband's lunch haha
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by Anonymous 11 on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:44 PM

I think you're over reacting. I wouldn't care.

by Platinum Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:45 PM

I think you are overreacting. Numerous times, my one of the wives of my husband's coworkers has sent lunch for him. It is just a show of appreciation usually. My husband is generally the one who gives reports to the big heads about quality of work under him, so when they get a raise or promotion it is usually because my husband said they deserved it. It's just something nice to do for another person and I'm sure that's all that woman meant for your husband as well.

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