This is bad. This is very very bad and I am so scared. She said that someone had reported that there was domestic violence (there has been ONE incident and it was not punching each other or anything like that!) and that I'd had bruises all over me (I didnt have a single bruise). They also said that the person had said I breastfed my son while on pain medication for my wisdom teeth being removed (I fed him formula that entire time and told her that and so did my SO and we showed her the can of formula and the bottles). She said the person reported that I also drink alcohol and then feed the baby! The person reported that we are abusive to the baby and that my SO neglects him while watching him! (umm do you see a single mark on my child? Does he look underweight to you? Does he look scared or skittish? He was smiling and laughing the whole time!) AND that she should bring an officer with her because I am an extremely violent person and may hurt her!! (I have never been in a single fight in my life and if they said that WHY dont you have a cop with you?!)
I did not tell her that my SO and I have had 1 altercation because I assume she'd then just think we ARE extremely violent/abusive and that all the rest of the completely untrue allegations were correct. I gave her multiple numbers to family and friends to call and confirm our story. She said that if anyone says anything suspocious they will open a full fledged investigation (I know no one will because everyone has seen us with this baby and how happy he always is!) but my only concern is that she is going to call my sons bio father who has never had anything to do with this baby and who hates me and he might take it upon himself to make up whatever he wishes just to fuck with me. Whoever reported it could also have 1 thing I said to them about the physical altercation and then we will be totally fucked! She refused to tell me who made the report but said she "knew this person and it isnt someone who would just be making things up" Umm WHY ARE YOU OUR CASE WORKER IF YOU KNOW THE PERSON WHO MADE A BUNCH OF FALSE REPORTS?? NOW SHE IS BIASED!
She said that if everyone says we are great parents and have never been violent the case will be dropped but if 1 person (MY EX!) says anything even remotely suspicions we're going to be investigated.
She didnt look in our fridge or any part of the apartment except to see the babies crib! I had to force her to come look at the cabinet full of baby food! Then I stupidly told her we are transitioning our son to the crib because we were co-sleeping (I didnt think I would get in trouble for co-sleeping when so many people do it!) and she said she would be reporting that to her supervisor because they dont "allow" parents to co-sleep. My response was "Well he has been sleeping in his crib for 3 weeks now and when we were co-sleeping we used only 1 thin blanket and he was between us for safety reasons"
I know we're fucked from the 1 altercation we had. I dont need anyone being mean to me, I have been balling since she left. If they take my baby I will never get over it. We have never abused him :( We love him more than anything in this world.
This is just destroying me :'( I dont know how I could go on without my beautiful baby boy! I am just balling my eyes out :(
(I am trying to get to everyones replies but my son is still up so its difficult. I will get to them all ASAP)