I just signed my son's IEP. Is it bad that i'm slightly disappointed?
I never had any problems in school. In fact, it was so easy for me I didn't even have to TRY to get straight A's. For my oldest son, however, school is torture. He has been diagnosed with a social anxiety. If he's not fully confident in his answer or is wrong it causes him great distress and puts him into what we call his "shut downs". Sometimes he'll stay in his shut down mode for hours, sometimes just a few minutes. Either way it takes him away from learning time. It's so bad that he is now a full year behind in school.
I wish things could be easier for him. He has to work so hard for something that just comes naturally for most kids.
The testing placed him at below average intelligence. They think this is mostly because of the anxiety experienced during the testing but it allows the school to get him the IEP which means he now gets 30 min 1-on-1 time with a reading teacher and 30 min 1-on-1 with a math teacher every day. So, it's good, I guess... but it makes me feel like my kid is dumb. And he's not. He's so not. He's an amazing kid. Everyone has problems, right? This is just something he struggles with. I'm allowed to be sad about it thought, right?
ETA: ok, ok, disappointed was the wrong word to use. i'm very proud of my son and who he is. he's capable of so much but this anxiety he has is crippling him. i'm sad that he'll have to struggle with this his whole life.