Naming early miscarriage babies?

[Anonymous]

No judgement here. I was just wondering about this.

Why do people name really early miscarried pregnancies?

I see the point if the gender is already known. I have seen alot of people in pregnancy loss boards who have names their babies as early as a few wks pregnant.

I miscarried at 10 wks. I did not name mine. Please do not get me wrong. I feel horrible about the loss and I constantly think about what might have been. I was hurt and I am still hurting.

Does it make it easier to name the baby?

I would think it would be harder

[notjstanothrmom]

It's really none of my business. I did not name my first three early losses, but I did name my 13 weeker because we did know the gender and she most certainly was a fully formed baby. It was devastating.

[MomTo2Boys12]

I would think it'd make it harder. I miscarried in 2011 at 8w6d and didn't name the baby. It hurt enough miscarry ingredients alone at home, I didn't want to add more pain by naming the baby.

[Anonymous]

 i think you should do whichever works for you.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is different.

[thetrollcat]

miscarriage is just a nature's event its not a tragedy like losing a child during a horrible birth or so. I agree with you, I think some people over exaggerate with their miscarriages treating them like real child loss. If miscarriages were rare then ya I would get it, but most people have at least one. They are actually common.

[Anonymous]

for some people. every one handles situations differently and while i didn't feel the need to name my lost baby, that doesn't mean others don't. no one can tell you why they do but the people who have done it. I will be making a memorial area in my garden for the baby i lost at 6 weeks, does every one do that no. it will help me for my own reasons, just as some mothers naming their lost babies have a personal reason for doing so.

[blackcat1515]

I think it helps to name the baby. really depends on the person though because some people dont really think of them as babies yet but to me they are babies the moment they are concieved....I lost mine when I was about 7-8 weeks.....it took me along time to come to terms with what happend because he would be here now. but I know he is looking over the baby I am carrying now and she will be here next month.

[delilahsmom1177]

First where are you getting your info? Most women have at least one misscarrage? REally I know a lot of women most my age or older. NONE have had a misscarrage. One lost had a still born but that is different. There was a funeral he is buried.

Quoting thetrollcat:

miscarriage is just a nature's event its not a tragedy like losing a child during a horrible birth or so. I agree with you, I think some people over exaggerate with their miscarriages treating them like real child loss. If miscarriages were rare then ya I would get it, but most people have at least one. They are actually common.

[emsmom627]

 wow really.  you think people over exaggerate a miscarriages.  that is a really cruel thing to say.  you don't think of it as a real child.  my goodness i think that is one of the harshest things I have heard on this site.

Quoting thetrollcat:

miscarriage is just a nature's event its not a tragedy like losing a child during a horrible birth or so. I agree with you, I think some people over exaggerate with their miscarriages treating them like real child loss. If miscarriages were rare then ya I would get it, but most people have at least one. They are actually common.

 

[ssassys]

I think for some it helps with closure.