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Why dont you guys let your husbands...

Anonymous
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I see here a lot how you guys don't let your husbands be, well... people... I mean come on? You don't let them hang out with other girls? Why? Do you not trust him to make the right decisions? and if he ends up cheating then I guess he wasn't the person you thought you married. I've been in my relationship for 7 years, my guy can do whatever he pleases, I give him space and I TRUST him completely. I know he would never overstep boundaries with any women and he has always been completely faithful. He's only friends with women from work, and he doesn't even hang out with them and when they do have events he always asks me to go with him and half the time I am begging for him to let me stay home. Another thing, porn... IS NOT CHEATING... It's not even close. But whatever. Some of you are just way to insecure and odd.


I made this because all of the insecure ones or who claim that their husbands agreed to it out of respect for the relationship blah blah blah reasons is. They could be missing a chance, of an amazing friendship.
My husband is amazing, one of a kind, a true gentlman, handy ;), talented, not just a father but a daddy. He is my everything and we have been together since we were 15 now 29 with one toddler and a baby on the way. We are inseperatable. My bestfriend is a guy, who I have been bestfriends with since we were 5 and met in kindergarten. We are identicle in thought and personality, we watch horror movies and laugh at them and how stupid they are now a days, and we go to concerts, and ozzfest, and we play guitar together and I dont know where I would have been without him, but I know if he wasn't around when I was 12 I wouldn't be alive.
My husbands bestfriend is a girl. They have known eachother since they were 8. She is amazing, and has really grown on me although for YEARS we hated eachother, and not because I was with her bestfriend or because she was another girl. We CLASHED in personality... I am Emotional, Dark, I hate chocolate, and love gummie bears. I am quiet and self kept. She is LOUD, obnoxious, bright, and kinda to giggly lol. But this is never interfered with our relationship. I was never once jealous of her or him jealous of my best friend. Because we trusted eachother enough to know that if we love eachother he would never cheat on me nor I on him. I love my husband, but I also love my best friend, But I love them both differently.
We actually had a different wedding... I had a best man and my husband had a made of honor. They watched us fall in love, they stood by us at the altar, they watched us become a family.

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:42 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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 I agree with you

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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robibuni
by Platinum Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:44 PM
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I don't care what my DH does...I trust him.

He usually doesn't want to go out...I even bring up "Hey you wanna go hang with your friends?" and he gets all "Ugh. I wanna stay here and play Black Ops", lol. Hey whatever works! At least he knows I'd let him go if he wanted! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:44 PM
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I don't 'let' dh do anything. He makes his own decisions. He doesn't do any of that by his choice. If he did..I wouldn't care anyway.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:45 PM
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And the ones that swear their man will never cheat on them are the men that do cheat.............

sugareemommee
by Ruby Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:45 PM
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In my MARRIAGE not relationship - my husband doesn't feel the need to have relationships with other women. I don't "let" or not let him, he just doesn't. We're best friends, there's not many chicks that can compare to me anyway ;)

And porn? Idgaf.
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meaganmac
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:46 PM
My husband has a social life that doesn't always involve me, just like I have a social life that doesn't always involve him (when I have time for a social life...lol). Although we do have a lot in common, we also each have interests the other doesn't share. And despite loving each other very much, we are 2 independent people who don't need to be attached at the hip. We're both very secure in our relationship and know that we can fully trust the other. And when something does come up, we communicate like adults.
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Bigmetalchicken
by Emerald Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:46 PM

I can understand why some women feel like porn is cheating. 

Personally, I don't see the point in trying to restrict someone from doing something. If a man is abstaining from stuff that his wife finds disrespecrtful, merely because he doesn't want to deal with the trouble of her flipping out, I find that personally more disrespectful. 

But once again, not my relationship, not my place. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:46 PM

I agree, if you don't trust him why be with him?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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I don't "let"  my dh do anything,  he is a grown man who can make is own decisions and choices.

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