My son graduated HS 2 years ago. He has ADHD with a processing disorder. He's a good kid (adult now) at home. He does things that he's asked to do without complaining. He was diagnosed just before grad as having a precancerous condition. He's had his colon removed to prevent the cancer and will be tested every 6 months to make sure he doesn't get cancer any where else. He told me a year before grad that he was molested by a neighbor's kid on top of all this. So needless to say... it's been tough on him.. BUT..... he's also gotten into trouble with girls at his school before he graduated. He kissed a girl who later said she didn't want it. They suspended him for a few days. He was talking to girls inappropriately... got reprimanded by us and threatened by the girl's bf. He started sending nude pics of himself via the Internet and the phone and gets pics form girls back. We explained how this could get him into trouble if they are underage. The school explained it to him too. We were highly concerned because he doesn't always know the girls online so he wouldn't know if she was of age or not. We are concerned he'll get busted one day for child porn or something. We just don't know how to get through to him... threats, we took away the electronics for a long time... but nothing seems to stick with him. He's been looking for a job but doesn't appear to be working very hard at doing so. He's been working with a rehabilitation center to get him in the right direction but I honestly think there is something wrong with the people who work there too because it's been two years and he's gotten no where. Although I have to subtract the time he was recovering from surgery and getting all kinds of tests done to figure out what was wrong..... still he should have made some kind of progress right? He doesn't get many interviews and hasn't been offered anything. It's sooooo frustrating. I feel he's very laxidazical and unconcerned about his life and future and I can't motivate him to do anything with pride and gusto let alone respect. My DH is ready now to kick him out... he's called my son's dad and told him to make arrangements to get him somehow because he's about to be tossed on his arse. I feel awful but I'm kinda done with all this. Why can't he grow up?