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Fil told me tonight that my son needs surgery to "fix" his penis...........

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My son is intact. He also has his first and hopefully only bladder infection. Yesterday he had to have a cath done because he refused to go pee at the doctors office, so now he is a bit irritated down there. He was put on meds so hopefully with that and tons of fluids he will get rid of the pain and discomfort and be able to get rid of the infection. Now tonight fil took a look at my son and the first thing he said was that my son needs surgery. I told him, and the doctor my son saw yesterday that circumcision is out of the question (unless absolutly positively necessary). I would think that if there was an issue the doctor would have said something to me yesterday, or hell even the nurse that did the cath would have said something. I know that the only thing you are suppose the see is the peehole, which is all there is to see, and my ds has a good stream when he does go, so I am not concerned, but god my fil won't leave me alone about the care of my son. Thankfully my dh, mil, and the nurse are all on my side and stick up for me, but how I can get my fil to shut up with out shutting him out or making him feel bad because he is just trying to help, but its irritateing?

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 9, 2013 at 10:21 PM
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momavanessa
by Violeta on Mar. 10, 2013 at 3:56 AM

Tell your FIL to drop it!! That is your child not his! I have a cousin that thinks she knows best about children and would say mom's who don't get their sons circumcised don't care. She doesn't even have kids!!

CrimsonRadiance
by Platinum Member on Mar. 10, 2013 at 3:58 AM
Ok, he is worried about if your son feels ok because he hasn't felt good due to the infection...

Why is he looking at your 3 year old's penis?? Especially since he is potty trained.. not like he was changing a diaper and noticed... That is just creepy..


Quoting Anonymous:


My son will be three next month........it is weird but he want's to make sure my son is "ok" since he does have an infection. I think my fil is afraid something will go wrong with my son since out of 9 grandchildren my son is the only boy.


Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son?  It feels weird to me that your fil is looking at his penis.  Am I the only one who doesn't know if their son has a "good stream" when they pee? 




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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 10, 2013 at 4:01 AM

My dh has had bladder infections...and he is circumcised.

I have two sons who were and one not, and none of them have had any issues.

As for your FIL, just nod your head and smile then do whatever you want to do.

bustybee
by Buzz Lightyear on Mar. 10, 2013 at 4:03 AM

I'm sorry your fil is being a butt :( but it really makes me glad that dh's only issue with the kids being uncirc'd is the appearance. being circ'd himself he feels that it looks 'more correct' and that uncirc'd penis's look 'wrong' lol. and apparently 99% of pornstars are circ'd (like that will change my mind lol)

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 10, 2013 at 4:11 AM
Just tell him, thank you for your advice, but this is really up to me and DH. And we've made our decision so we hope that you can stand behind us in our decision and not undermined our parental authority.
stickyfingers
by Platinum Member on Mar. 10, 2013 at 4:11 AM
I think it's very strange your fil wanted to check your 3 yr olds penis to make sure it is okay...

Quoting Anonymous:


My son will be three next month........it is weird but he want's to make sure my son is "ok" since he does have an infection. I think my fil is afraid something will go wrong with my son since out of 9 grandchildren my son is the only boy.


Quoting Anonymous:

How old is your son?  It feels weird to me that your fil is looking at his penis.  Am I the only one who doesn't know if their son has a "good stream" when they pee? 




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SadeAyosmom
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 4:47 AM
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my daughter got a UTI when she was 8 months old i didnt rush out and circ her because of it.

winterglow
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 5:37 AM

Your FIL doesn't need to be looking at your son's penis - he needs to respect the child's privacy. Only grandson or not, it's not his business. He should have accepted a "he's OK" from you or his son.

He also needs to knock it off about getting your son surgery. What is he trying to do? Give your son unnecessary complexes at age 3?

Tell him that you have heard what he said and that the subject is CLOSED.

Good luck.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 10, 2013 at 5:47 AM
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He's your son, do what you want. As for the people commenting about how weird it is that your FIL saw your son's penis, I find it weird that they have such an issue with a grandparent seeing their grandchild naked. If there was an issue with my son's penis (if I had one) I would probably ask my parents to take a look just for a second opinion.
ForeverInLove
by Bronze Member on Mar. 10, 2013 at 7:44 AM

Tell him, "Why don't you concentrate on your own penis, and what you are doing with it? I'm leaving that choice to my son, since it's his body. Unless we are dealing with something life threatening, then I don't see a need to go and rip skin away from very sensitive tissues, and then cut off that skin, possibly creating serious health and sexual issues for him when he is older."

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