I have a confession to make, please don't judge me, and maybe I could use some advice as well. I am having an affair, been going on for two years now. As some of you may know, it is difficult to separate sex and emotion, especially when involved with the same person for an extended period of time. Can I say I love him? There are definitely some things about him that I love. But I am also not young and naive. I know this isn't going to amount to anything and I'm not sure I would want it to anyway, hard to trust a cheater.
I was months into the relationship before he confessed that he was married. This year will mark 30 years married. His reason for cheating, she doesn't have sex with him anymore. She does, but its rare and she's detached when they do. Other than that, he says they have an awesome relationship. He says that but I don't believe it. I guess what I want to know is why would a man cheat after that many years? Is it more than just a lack of sex at home? Am I crazy for thinking there are underlying issues that he isn't willing to accept? Opinions?