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Need some advice ladies....Kinda long

Anonymous
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My dh hasn't been talking to me at all. He can't ever just chill and sit and relax with me. And it bothers me. Every day he comes home for lunch, and he never says anything. He makes himself something to eat, watches tv, and sometimes takes a nap if he has time. Then it's out the door back to work. Then he comes home from work and watches tv or something around the house if I ask him too and then tries for sex, if I say no, then he does it himself then gets in bed, watches more tv, then passes out. 

Last nite I went to bed early bc I wasn't feeling good and he said he was gonna be up after walking the dog so he could spend some time with me, that was 8pm. So he gets to our room, trys for sex, I said I wasn't feeling good, so he took a bath did his thing, then came back to bed and went to bed. REALLY? That's quality time? And when I do try to talk to him, I NEVER have his full attention on just me. 

He came home from work for lunch today, and I said " Babe, how come you don't talk to me anymore? I feel like we never talk anymore" he said " I just don't have anything to say" and I said " I have tons to talk about and I never leave the house, you leave and go to work, there has to be something you wanna talk about or complain about, laugh about or something" and he just shrugged ((while I'm saying all this he's just watching tv, not even looking at me)) And I said "well just because your ok with it doesn't mean that I should be ok with us not talking, because I'm not babe, I don't like that we don't talk at all, the only time I have your full attention is when you try to have sex with me" and he just said " Ah" .....my heart sank...and I just said " Nevermind" and I went outside and smoked a cig and tried to hold my tears in. It's like he doesn't care..

And another thing, he comes home from lunch at 11 and doesn't have to be back til 1, and it seems like everyday he leaves earlier and earlier...today he left at 12:12...he works like 2 minutes away ???? I don't get it...And to make matters even worse ( which might not seem bad you some of you ladies, which I don't mind it either, but it's just the fact that he's leaving early from me to go sit in his car til he has to be at work ) when he's at work early he looks at porn on his phone tiil he has to be in at work. I don't care about porn, it's the fact that it makes me feel like he would rather do that then stay at home til he REALLY has to leave...Ughh..I don't know what to do. I don't feel satisfied in any aspect of our marriage...Advice please ladies...

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 12, 2013 at 6:38 PM
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BrittSam2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 12, 2013 at 6:44 PM

Wow. I'm sorry. That's a really horrible situation. My DH sometimes gets in slumps like this and I have to really try to snap him out of it. But with mine, it's usually something at work that he's trying to figure out. He's a mechanic.

Id say to shut off the power, light some big candles and Make him talk to you. Hopefully he's not having an affair (emotional or physical). Good luck.

BrittSam2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 12, 2013 at 6:48 PM

The power thing is so the tv doesn't go on. And take his phone before hand.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 12, 2013 at 7:03 PM

Dh has gotten into slumps like this too, but it never last this long. I just can't get anything out of him. And with the way I'm feeling, I'm sorry sex is the last thing on my mind right now, especially when that seems to be the only thing that gets his attention it makes me feel like a piece of ass, I know I'm not, but it kinda makes me feel that way ya know? My husband is also a mechanic, I was thinking of taking a bath with him with some candles , because we use to take baths all the time and just talk about stuff. And I hope he's not having an affair too, not for my sake, for his lol.

Quoting BrittSam2011:

Wow. I'm sorry. That's a really horrible situation. My DH sometimes gets in slumps like this and I have to really try to snap him out of it. But with mine, it's usually something at work that he's trying to figure out. He's a mechanic.

Id say to shut off the power, light some big candles and Make him talk to you. Hopefully he's not having an affair (emotional or physical). Good luck.


BrittSam2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 12, 2013 at 7:17 PM

The bath idea sounds good. And with how he's not communicating with you, I wouldn't want to make love either. If he would agree to it, maybe take a weekend vacation? Go to a bed and breakfast or a hotel and just have alone time together. Anything that you think would get him to open up.

When my DH does this I have to sit down and turn the tv off to get him to snap out of it. Or I text him a lot in the middle of work when he's not so busy. Sometimes the absence of your actual voice will get him to listen more, as weird as that sounds.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 12, 2013 at 7:19 PM

That actually makes a lot of sense. And we text to communicate better over text, or a letter or something, because we are able to think about what we want to say other then talking without thinking ya know..thanks :)

Quoting BrittSam2011:

The bath idea sounds good. And with how he's not communicating with you, I wouldn't want to make love either. If he would agree to it, maybe take a weekend vacation? Go to a bed and breakfast or a hotel and just have alone time together. Anything that you think would get him to open up.

When my DH does this I have to sit down and turn the tv off to get him to snap out of it. Or I text him a lot in the middle of work when he's not so busy. Sometimes the absence of your actual voice will get him to listen more, as weird as that sounds.


BrittSam2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 12, 2013 at 7:36 PM

You're welcome. Work every time for us. Hopefully it works for you too.

Quoting Anonymous:

That actually makes a lot of sense. And we text to communicate better over text, or a letter or something, because we are able to think about what we want to say other then talking without thinking ya know..thanks :)

Quoting BrittSam2011:

The bath idea sounds good. And with how he's not communicating with you, I wouldn't want to make love either. If he would agree to it, maybe take a weekend vacation? Go to a bed and breakfast or a hotel and just have alone time together. Anything that you think would get him to open up.

When my DH does this I have to sit down and turn the tv off to get him to snap out of it. Or I text him a lot in the middle of work when he's not so busy. Sometimes the absence of your actual voice will get him to listen more, as weird as that sounds.



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