If I don't connect with someone, I can't form an actual friendship with them and it all feels forced.
This chick...wow. She is a "stage 5 clinger". She comments on EVERYTHING I post on Facebook or likes it. She posts many, many, many useless photos all day and my newsfeed is so full that I don't see what others write. It's gotten so bad that I've had to block from seeing her posts and vice versa.
You'd figure that when i don't like or comment back on the stupid shit she writes on my posts and pretty much ignore her, she'd get the hint, right? No! So, I've resorted to not even going on FB anymore.
If that's not giving her a clue, she texts me all during the day....like every 5 minutes. If I don't text right back, she's "?????" Or something like that or basically has a conversation with herself. I'll reply with one word answers or not at all.
You'd think she'd get a clue? NOOOOOO!
I've been very distant our entire friendship. I just don't get close to people, it's a defense mechanism I've had to build.
From the first time I hung out with her, she was like, "you're my bestie!" and all of that sentimental crap. I'm not into all that with women. I'm barely like that with a guy....another defense mechanism. She clung to my side the entire time while I was trying to watch my kid.
Kids...that's another subject!! I.cannot.stand.her.children!!! I'm EXHAUSTED after 10 minutes with her bc of those little...well, they are kids so I'll keep that to myself. Her parenting is horrible! They get away with everything, which is why they have become the way they are. She just gives up after they whine long enough. She wants to "lock the kids up" so we can have, "girl time". Um...no. Girl time is for when the kids aren't present, it's my job to watch my child, not send them upstairs and lock him in a room so you can claim how, "fabulous" or "glamorous" your life is and gossip.
So, since I cannot seem to drop enough hints and her get them....how the fuck do I tell her that our friendship is just not working out? I'm a passive person, so I don't like confrontation. I also don't want to hurt her feelings, either. She is a nice person but very over dramatic and emotional.
I just don't know what to do.
Before anyone bashes me, I'm aware I'm not a good friend and I don't like that about myself. I know I'm not which is why I don't have friends on purpose bc I don't want to hurt anyone.
It takes a certain person to get inside my head and I can actually be friends with and those times are very rare. I tend to connect with males better bc of the profession I'm in.
Anyone have any constructive advice for me?