my son got his gf pregnant, idk how to get my thoughts together*update*again
my 17 year old got a girl pregnant, shes 17 also.....he came to me last night with her 12 week ultrasound, and all he said was "im sorry mom, idk what happened she has the birth control that goes in the arm, i just dont know why it stopped working" i asked him if he used condoms as well, he said yes except for once when it fell off. the girl came over after my son had left for school with black tears running down her face(wears heavy eye liner) and when i opened the door she said to me immediately "im sorry, i didnt mean to mess up andy's life, it was one stupid mistake and i never thought my birth control would fail, im so sorry" i asked her why she was saying this she just looked nervously behind her and then i noticed her parents in their car parked at the end of the drive way, i just hugged her, i couldnt stand to see her crying so hard to the point she was shaking (nevermind that this was only the second time id met her) i saw bruises on her arms but let her go.
i feel terrible, i dont know what to think.....i dont know how to act, iv just been sitting here on the couch staring at the wall thinking of what to do or say. i just dont know......
edit:they just came home from school.....well they are actually 3 hours early from school, i guess lil got sick and couldnt make it the rest of the day so i'll update when im done talking to them
update: so lil woke up (her name is Lilith which is why we call her lil) and i asked her what her plans were, she said her friend has a job waiting for her when she wants it, shes graduating in a week because she asked for extra work and has 5 credits missing.i asked her about the bruises and said her mom gave them to her when she ran from the table to throw up last night...so the next step is calling the police to have her go get her things. i'll call the non emergency line to see what they can do, my son is signing up for accelerated online classes, which means he'll graduate this coming june,my husband is on his way home to talk to ds.
update again: so we went to get her things a little while ago,her parents we're screaming at her so bad the cops had to take them out back so they wouldnt upset her anymore then she already was. my son was getting so worked up and was about to punch her older brother in the face for bad mouthing her(he was calling her a slut, telling my son that the kid was not his, that he was stupid for staying with her, but we got everything she needed, i cooked dinner when we got home (she inhaled it) and lil and andy are sitting in the living room watching hotel transylvania. andy said he'll let her have his room unless his dad says different,we're still waiting for him to get here