I was recently approached by my son's teacher at school along with the school psychologist about how "I show my child love and acceptance" among other things. It broke my heart to hear this, but they told my husband and I that our son is in pain. I said pain what pain he has it pretty easy at home with two loving parents. The psychologist said that our son feel abandon and neglected not worthy of our love. I told him that is crazy because we love our son. He means the world to us. They told us that we more specifically me needs to show him that I love him through physical contact and praise. Well my problem is that I thought that my son knew he is loved unconditionally by me. Apparently not. I feel horrible that he feels this way because growing up I was emotionally and physically abused and neglected as a child and I know what that feels like. I vowed that I would never repeat that with my children. I struggle with saying "I love you" and showing physical love to my son. I believe that this has a lot to do with the neglect I experienced as a child. I just simply don't know how to show love or make someone feel loved because I never had that feeling or example in my life. I always found love and acceptance in all the wrong places.How do I reverse this before its to late? Any advice would be appreciated. I am already headed to the book store and therapy to try and fix the problem. I had no idea that my son was suffering because of me.
on Mar. 15, 2013 at 7:53 PM