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I was raised to believe this.

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I don't want to bash anyone or rain on anyone's parade but I have a question or idk debate? When a lot of different issues come up be it abortion, gay marriage, religion, etc. so many people justify their stance (usually of a form of intorelance) by saying 'I was raised that way' or 'that's what I was taught growing up' 'that's what my mother/father/preacher/rabbi/whoever taught me'







I was raised in a very conservative (bigoted) family. Homosexuals are mentally ill and were sexual abused as children that's why they are homosexual. Interracial marriage is wrong. Abortion at any stage, for any reason, is murder. And countless others. But, I grew up. I moved away from home and I realized that most of the things I was raised to believe weren't true. And that it's wrong to see them the way I was raised.







I don't want to bash anyone but for those of you who have used this excuse. Have you read your religious book for yourself? Or just taken someone else's preachings as fact? Do you ever wonder that maybe, if you distanced yourself from the subject and took an unbiased look at it you would feel differently? Have you ever tried to put yourself in that other persons shoes before you judge or condemn them?


ETA: because someone was offended by it. After I called my family conservative and added in bigoted I was making the distinction that while they do align with a lot of conservative beliefs and ideals my family is also very bigoted. I didn't want to imply that all conservatives thought the same as my family.
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by on Mar. 17, 2013 at 2:56 AM
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boldrumble
by on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:23 AM
It seems a lot of peiple think that a person gets pulled in by religuon or a church and are told what to believe and how to act.... But for me....i know what i believe amd then found the religion that aligned with that.


Quoting RMB2011:

Then that's what you believe. As long as you are educated about it, have empathy for others, and you aren't trying to force your beliefs on anyone else I have no problem with it.



Quoting boldrumble:

I was raised to think for myself....and believe some of the things in your op.






Quoting RMB2011:

Well I'm glad someone was raised that way. Lol I didn't realize what 'thinking for myself' was until I joined the military. As ironic as that sounds lol







Quoting KristenFowles:

I was raised to think for myself.. And I really appreciate my parents allowing me to come to conclusions on my own, and answer my questions openly, but in a way in which there was no push towards one side or the other.


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Blue_Spiral
by Gold Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:23 AM
Quoting RMB2011:

I did the same. As a young teen I was right with my church picketing abortion clinics and shunning African Americans. I hate myself for it. It wasn't until I actually started to question things that I realized what I had been raised in was wrong. And it hurt so much to pull away from it but I finally did. Now, I consider my self a Christian, in the aspect that I believe in Christ and his teachings. Not the rest of it though. I like my fleece blend pants lol

Quoting Blue_Spiral:


I was raised to question "worldly" authority, which actually led to my questioning of my church's authority, and led me to becoming a liberal atheist lol.

So, I'm grateful for that aspect of it :)

I remember arguing as a teenager that gay people were sinning until I was blue in the face lol, and I even remember clearly thinking to myself, "I don't even understand my own points, and these people are making better points than me, but it's what my religion says so I'm right."

It's great when a person can grow up intellectually as well as physically.

Well, then you're not a TRUE Christian! lol jk ;-)
RMB2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:24 AM
I'm a Christian as well and I so very much, understand your frustration. I think that eventually people who do 'love thy neighbor' will outshine the hate. Hopefully.

Quoting Paige42986:

I am a Christian but I would never put any one down for their beliefs no matter what they are. I am not a bigoted person at. I get tired of people thinking that because I am a Christian I will be hateful and that is so far from who I am! I was raised in a home that was a Christian home but was also taught to be good to all people. I think for myself and have my own opinions but they are never hateful and mean!

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RMB2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:25 AM
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Damnit I knew I missed something in the red ink!

Quoting Blue_Spiral:

Quoting RMB2011:

I did the same. As a young teen I was right with my church picketing abortion clinics and shunning African Americans. I hate myself for it. It wasn't until I actually started to question things that I realized what I had been raised in was wrong. And it hurt so much to pull away from it but I finally did. Now, I consider my self a Christian, in the aspect that I believe in Christ and his teachings. Not the rest of it though. I like my fleece blend pants lol



Quoting Blue_Spiral:


I was raised to question "worldly" authority, which actually led to my questioning of my church's authority, and led me to becoming a liberal atheist lol.

So, I'm grateful for that aspect of it :)

I remember arguing as a teenager that gay people were sinning until I was blue in the face lol, and I even remember clearly thinking to myself, "I don't even understand my own points, and these people are making better points than me, but it's what my religion says so I'm right."

It's great when a person can grow up intellectually as well as physically.



Well, then you're not a TRUE Christian! lol jk ;-)
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RMB2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:27 AM
Good for you! I had to do that once I pulled away from what I was raised in. And honestly, I'm so much happier now.

Quoting boldrumble:

It seems a lot of peiple think that a person gets pulled in by religuon or a church and are told what to believe and how to act.... But for me....i know what i believe amd then found the religion that aligned with that.




Quoting RMB2011:

Then that's what you believe. As long as you are educated about it, have empathy for others, and you aren't trying to force your beliefs on anyone else I have no problem with it.





Quoting boldrumble:

I was raised to think for myself....and believe some of the things in your op.








Quoting RMB2011:

Well I'm glad someone was raised that way. Lol I didn't realize what 'thinking for myself' was until I joined the military. As ironic as that sounds lol









Quoting KristenFowles:

I was raised to think for myself.. And I really appreciate my parents allowing me to come to conclusions on my own, and answer my questions openly, but in a way in which there was no push towards one side or the other.


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Amiehart62
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:27 AM
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I was raised not pass judgement and to show compassion for people who suffer whether I agreed with something or not. Most people who live a lifestyle that is different than what society thinks is acceptable suffers in some way and On a very basic human level this is sad NO MATTER HOW ANYONE FEELS ABOUT IT!



Less judgement more understanding and a little compassion goes a long way even if its not something you would choose for yourself.
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RMB2011
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:31 AM
Very true! Compassion goes a long way, whether you see it's effects or not.

Quoting Amiehart62:

I was raised not pass judgement and to show compassion for people who suffer whether I agreed with something or not. Most people who live a lifestyle that is different than what society thinks is acceptable suffers in some way and On a very basic human level this is sad NO MATTER HOW ANYONE FEELS ABOUT IT!





Less judgement more understanding and a little compassion goes a long way even if its not something you would choose for yourself.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:35 AM
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People for some odd reason can't seem to question what they are raised to believe and that makes me sad. Think for yourself people. It wont hurt.
armywife009
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:37 AM
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I was raised in an extremely homophobic, racist, bigoted, family. But my beliefs are nothing like theirs.

People are too incompetent to use their own minds, they would rather put the blame somewhere else.

Tinabee88
by Platinum Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:39 AM
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I wasn't raised to think anything was wrong or right. My parents spent way too much time arguing with each other to drill any kind of stance on issues (gay marriage, interracial relatonships, etc.) into their childrens head. I grew up a free thinker, had friends of different races and sexualities, and I'm not opposed to much except child sex traffickers.

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